Sunday 31 March 2019

Balancing is different from multitasking + why do you want to hurry up and matter ?


It is the end of march already somebody tell 2019 to slow down nobody is chasing it, or is it just me? Do you ever feel like Time is running out like there are things you need to achieve at a certain, age, time or period? Is balancing hard for you?
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!  
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?

Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.

I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. 
I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.

Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense? 

Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right.


In case I haven’t said it here.
I am a law student(give me a chilled glass of anything cold pls) I always knew I was going to do this but nothing prepared me for the stress and brain drain. I thought it was simply an extension of my secondary school government classes. Oh ! I should have done some other Now I am not saying other courses are easy but you know when you are in a stressful situation, It is normal to think the grass is greener on the other side, till you go there and see reality. 
I am sure you have asked yourself questions about your current level in life and its okay. For me, I just keep wondering like Law is not beans. I have to go to my classes because this degree will not get itself. I have writing contests to enter, novels to read, And most of all I have God. 

Till today I am still lost on how I am supposed to juxtapose all these things.  I follow The amazing Nigerian actress Jemima Osunde and I am sincerely wondering how someone can be great and consistent with a successful acting career and still scale through medical school in rainbow colours, It is a wow!
Live a life that is well balanced; don't do things in excess - Daniel
One day I got back from school and I asked myself what on earth am/I here for. Like God are you sure music is not my calling (but after I soloed amazing by Nathaniel Bassey in secondary school  I perished that idea) can one good samaritan just credit my account with millions? So I'd just stop going to school and start balling lol.

Balancing is not multitasking, It is very similar but in some ways different. 


Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Joshua Osenga, 12 years a Cubicle Slave 

I don’t know what the primary purpose of this post is, but I know someone needs to hear It. One essential thing I know I lack is Balance, yes I will be truthful, getting everything done at the set time is too good to be true for me.

The more often you decline invitations to spend time with friends or family because you are too busy with either work or other activities, the more you should realize that your life is not in balance." Byron Pulsifer, Balanced Life 
It is putting something In a steady position so It does not fall, multitasking is simply doing more than one task at a time, see you can multitask and still have Unbalanced areas of your life, but balance keeps you on track. It keeps you in control and at the helm of affairs, with it comes multitasking. 
Multitasking can happen anytime. you don't really need to be disciplined or anything. 


Before you have the panic and self-doubt attack I had this morning ask yourself this 

  • why am I here? 
  • why am I studying this? 
  • why am I eating this? 
  • why did I start this? 
  • why am I writing this? 
  • Why am I still reading this blog post? 

I am not going all motivational speakerish on you. I just wish you would genuinely ask yourself these questions, think long and hard it will help your life. 
For instance, when I see Ice cream, bread or Juice before I eat It, I ask myself why am I eating this, am I hungry? didn’t I just eat? shebi Man does not leave by bread alone. Why? Because I have a weight loss goal. More than half of the time I eat It anyway, but baby steps we are getting there. I want a consistent healthy eating lifestyle, something I can work with, a pattern. That's what balance is all about.

What the heck is your why, when you know your why, it will drive you. Learn to do things before it is due, sometimes this "as and when due" can get you choked up on stuff.

Waist trainers

All the fine pictures you see Pamela took them for me with Sonia’s iPhone 6s, that's what I call teamwork and support or is it just love.

Pamela is a sweet girl and she has a passion for photography, I love how she researches and Is willing to learn new things plus she is tongue lashing and holy ghost filled. It is not because she is my friend I am just naturally attracted to women with vision.
 I didn’t allow her to edit the pictures because I wanted it as it was taken, but if she did it would have been top-notch Pah_mcy is her Instagram handle. Say hi tell her you are from the blog.

Sonia, she wanted to be an astronaut, a doctor( because she is good with blood ) a musician, then study international relations and diplomacy because you know this country is beginning to piss everybody off. 

But you know the lord took her to the law department because his ways are not our ways. 
Sonia is a writer, a sweet girl, a sensible slay queen and a child of God with the kind of smile I am in love with. She is the owner of the iPhone, she just had to leave the android department.  Itsoni_ee is her Instagram handle, go and say hi, tell her you are from the blog. 


This post was all over the place but I hope you learn a thing or two? We are all trying to figure things out, share your findings with me.

Friday 1 March 2019


Reading habits

Hey there my love, I am here to tell you why you should not be reading and also help you improve your reading habits so you can find your reading forte.

Reading habits

   You know reading can be a good thing.
I mean it is a good thing because it expands your horizon. It equips you with knowledge and all of that good stuff but It can be toxic If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons , you’re probably waiting for me to hit the hammer on the nail , I will hit It, just keep reading.

I have passion for teaching KIds to become readers, to become comfortable with a book, not daunted. Books shouldn't be daunting, they should be funny, exciting and wonderful;and learning to be a reader gives a terrific advantage- Roald Dahl

Reading habits

 I get a lot of questions from people about my reading habits aka why I love books and how I read books.

This time, It is not about Academics or school work because to be honest sometimes most Nigerian students including me only read to pass exams maybe because the educational system and process is boring and stressful. If you are in the abroad is it better there? Tell me, that is an issue for another day. 

Reading is the discount ticket to everywhere - Mary schmich

Reading habits

We will be discussing other books, not school books, so don’t run away grab a glass of anything that you can gulp down your throat  without causing trouble for your stomach and let’s engage ok.

DISCLAIMER: I don’t read as much as people think I do, a lot of my people will disagree but it is the plain truth. I just try my best.

Now, I don’t know if it’s just me but I face a lot of pressure when it comes to reading books, like when I look around  and I see people who  can read for Africa.

I just find myself wishing I could read more. You probably have that one friend that reads a lot and you wonder how he/ she does it? Like how and why does he/she enjoy reading? 

Reading habits

I don’t have all the answers but I know people read for different reasons. I also know everybody can read books, anybody can become a bookworm, you just need to find the right book and the right medium to read the book. 


1.  JUST BECAUSE OTHERS ARE READING: listen, you can be motivated by the reading ability of others but when you start seeing it as a competition ‘’as per I read pass you’’ It only means you have lost your essence and sense of direction, don’t resent yourself if you’ve done this, it is totally okay just snap out of it, I have been there, I have done that. 

See eh that Ada read 50 books in three weeks is not a reason you should read or buy 100 books to read, you will end up missing all your schedules and appointments and you will not enjoy it.
 I was the chairman on that table till I nearly failed one of my courses trying to finish ‘’THERE WAS A COUNTRY ‘’ by Chinua Achebe simply because someone on Instagram bragged about reading it, I wanted to prove myself, to show them that I can read big books too , I have still not finished it and it is not about to be finished anytime soon.

There was a country
One day I will take a cozy vacation and read this book well until then, borrow pose!

My Point is, everybody has the unique ability to plan and execute differently so don’t go out of your way because someone is going their way. Amen! 

I can't imagine a man really enjoying a book and reading it only once- C.s Lewis


Remember the review of a book is very subjective to the reader whether good or bad. It is what the reader thinks and interprets from the book, there are diverse perspectives and personalities in this world o. If I hate a book you might be love struck by it. So read a book because you are Interested in the genre or even because you love the cover lol anything. Just do it for yourself. 

Reviews can help you want a book ,for instance I have heard only good things about Trevor Noah’s  ‘’Born a crime’’ and I can’t wait to read it.
I might read it and not like it (doubt that),let's  say I do a bad review about it and because of my review you decide not to  buy the book again. Does that make sense to you? I hope not.

Reading habits

If you don't like to read, you haven't foud the right book- J.k Rowling
It is not that you naturally hate reading books; you just have not found the right book yet. I employ you to understand your interests and go for it. What excites you? Ask yourself is it romance, memoirs,nonfiction,paranormal,
fashion, etc what are you into? sit down and revaluate. what style of writing can you connect with. 

PS: to find out all these things I am telling you you have to read.

let me give you a tip, when you buy a book read the first chapter and/ or the last , then go somewhere in the middle, then admire the cover, breathe.

If you've done all these things and you still don't like the book feel free to drop it, try another one and if you have done all and no book interests you, come and see my therapist or book a book consultation with me  oshee did you feel my rhyme scheme . I may or may not be joking.

you know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend-Paul Sweeney

 Realize that it is not about the author, you can dislike a book from your favourite author and you can totally love a book by your worst author. Am I flowing? 

For the longest time, I was told and I believed Wole Soyinka’s books were incomprehensible, I didn’t bother reading his works till I came across ‘’Telephone conversation’’ and I loved it.

My friend did not like Chinua Achebe’s books so I assumed I won’t like it too, but look at me now, I have read Things fall apart thrice and I will still read It again because it holds so much cultural power.

There was a country

 I am not a fan of science fiction and that is Nnedi Okorafor’s specialty.
 I liked her as person not as an author till
A friend made me read ‘’Who fears death’’ not done yet but It I like It midway plus I read her short story ‘The palm wine bandit’ It is a very liberating piece.

All I am Saying  is find what you love and connect with it , you will be a book beast in no time okay and it doesn’t matter if you are a slow or fast reader, Just read at your pace, even If it takes you two days to read one chapter relax we die here , nobody is chasing you.

If you don't like someones story, write your own- Chinua Achebe

Choose a reading medium or pattern suitable for you
If it’s paper back ngwanu! , If it’s E-book swipe away, if its audio book listen till your ear drums beg for emancipation, don’t go and be deaf o and say I sent you.

Reading habits

Let me suggest various websites and apps that will help you with reading and help you find what you love to read

  Okada Books: This is for my E-book people, you buy all sorts of books here while you have access to a ton of free books too,  you can sign up Here

Any Books: you find amazing E-books there for free, like when I found out I ran there with the speed of light, you can sign up Here

.Scribd: This is perfect for Audio books, like you can legit listen to the books as someone reads them to you, sometimes it is the author that reads the book, now is that cool or what! you read free for 30 days oh bliss, sign up here My E-book lovers on this app for 500 naira per month you can access a wealth of books, is it not a wonderful something? check it out here .

Check out something bookish, Roving heights, bookpeddlerng or any book shop around you for paper backs. There are a dozen other places; these are just a few of them, Google is your friend not police so research, you just might find your treasure.

Reading habits
BTS for this photoshoot, This was my mood all through. Xo xo
There is nothing more luxurious than eating while you read-unless it be reading while you eat - E. Nesbit

 If you read till the end you are awesome and you are such a good reader. Was this helpful? Did I make helpful sense? Did I convince you  to read more? Let’s talk in the comment section, let me here your suggestions/ issues with Reading. I know this post is a little all over the place, I just hope you got the message, Still trying to master this blogging thing lol, I Love you! 

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