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Friday, 29 November 2019

SELF LOVE IS NOT VAIN

November 29, 2019 16 Comments

Red

When I wanted to write this, I had a lot of thoughts like is it even Valentines Day? What do you even know about self-love? Is this blog for you or for people? Etc.

 Well ,the reasons I shouldn’t write this blog post are the same reasons I am writing it. First, It would be such a shame and a great disservice to humanity if the only time we want to talk about love or show love is during valentine’s day. Secondly, self-love is a daily, reaffirming and conscious effort and we have so much trivialized it. Thirdly this blog is our blog and we will learn together.

“Eat as you love yourself. Move as you love yourself. Speak as you love yourself. Act as you love yourself.”
    Often times we seek attention and validation from other people so much that we forget that it is our duty first to validate ourselves before others. I wanted this post to be a love letter to myself, something you can read to yourself too but once I start typing the spirit starts leading and trust me to follow Amen!

 I think the problem we have is that we expect so much love from others when we have not given that measure of love to ourselves. If we are going to be logical about this why should I even love you if you don’t love yourself? If you don’t value yourself what will be my gain if I choose to value you?
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
Back in secondary school, I wished someone would send me love letters. I had friends who received lots of them and I didn’t know then whether I wanted them because I loved to read or because I felt unloved. PS: I am more likely to read and reply a text or email than I would receive calls or even call back. I think if you know me well you should know this by now.

 My birthday was the best period for me in secondary because I got a lot of handmade birthday cards and notes. People wrote sweet things about me and I still have most of them.

These cards were almost as sweet if not sweeter than the love letters I read from  my classmates/seniors, some of their boyfriends were bad writers and poets but ok ( people of God, I am not being a hater, It’s true) I mean what is the meaning of ‘’the colour of your daywear takes my breath away’’  mtcheww  uncle go and  buy pink oxygen and fix your respiratory problem abeg.
Love letter
Image by Claudius Hegedus via unsplash


I wanted my own Love letter, now I know better but then I was not satisfied with birthday cards I wanted a boy to validate me, to exaggerate my qualities and give me butterflies.

 I didn’t love myself enough to know that I didn’t need a few words from the opposite sex to feel loved and appreciated. This is what we do to ourselves and its bad. When you don’t love yourself enough anybody can give you half baked attention and you will take it like that because you don’t know worth.
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” – Andre Gide

You know in the bible It is written that If you don’t love you don’t know God and If you don’t know God my guess is you will not make heaven, stay with me, now God says love your neighbour as yourself meaning that you are loving this neighbour with the measure of love you have for yourself and if you don’t have it, well you can’t give what you don’t have. 

Also even if you manage to love this neighbour and you don’t love yourself you still don’t know God because Love is missing somewhere and you still may not enter the kingdom.  self-love is required for you to enter the kingdom of God. The same goes for forgiveness, forgive yourself for that avoidable mistake or whatever thing you think you did! it goes both ways. 

1john 4:8; Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love

When it comes to relationship I have a slight problem with this ‘ my other half, my missing rib thing’ because sometimes it is largely misunderstood and it lures some people into thinking that every human being is incomplete and needs another human being somewhere to complete them. Build the love and fulfilment for yourself. You are a complete human being already, you are not half baked or half-formed. God only said it is not good for man to be alone. 

He did not say I have made man Incomplete. you are whole and hopefully, you meet someone who is whole and together you both become wholesome. You don’t even need to start measuring your worth, you were born worthy.

Whole + whole = wholesome
love
image by Tim mossholder via unsplash
“The fact that someone else loves you doesn’t rescue you from the project of loving yourself.”

“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.” – Andrew Matthews 

So this is a love letter to me and to you. Read it to yourself first before anyone else.
love
Image from @contentpixie via Unsplash


Dear girl/ boy, man/ woman
I look at you and I see the essence of living, the colour of your eyes paint a perfect picture and I don’t know a better view. 

I gaze at the wonder Lines gracing your palms and I wonder what beauty lies in our path as I take your palm in mine.

 I may not know what it means to be perfect but I know you’re the most perfect version of imperfection there is.

 Every arc and curve on your body is an atlas outline of the beauty in your making. I want to ask the creator what Mother nature and Earth did to deserve such a bedazzling creature.

 I feel the texture of your hair, even the baldness of your scalp and all I can say is there is no uneasiness there. It is smooth enough to fit any crown, to lead any troop, to be queen, to be king, to be anything.

 I am in awe of your lips, how your tongue touches your teeth then forms a mini pout before your teeth slightly bit your lower lip into an invitation when you pronounce the word love. I love everything that you are becoming, everything that you are and are not. I accept you. I take you. You are enough.


I am out please; it is not time to write my wedding vows. All I am saying is your matter and you matter equally so give yourself love and attention. Eat out by yourself some time, Netflix and chill alone sometimes. Now tell me one thing you love about you whether it is your physical appearance or character traits then write them down.

 Me I love that I can hype people, I love my Lips when I wear lip sticks or glosses and I love my collar bones even though they are almost nonexistent. Let’s hear yours.
Lip gloss




Thursday, 14 November 2019

Heal: You can't get even with everybody!

November 14, 2019 11 Comments

Let it go!

Nature

What does it even mean to heal? I ask because I have stalled on this subject and I found that it is deeper than cuts, burns, open wounds etc. I am talking about the kind of healing that comes from within, the kind that gives you this freedom and weightlessness that is almost orgasmic, now I don’t mean sexual healing( it is part of it, I am just not the go-to person for that subject) so I am speaking  of spiritual healing, one that comes from the within, from the heart, it’s a mental thing.

It is impossible to talk about this kind of healing without forgiveness, see grudge is like an open wound that exists internally, you continue to bleed inside till your blood becomes stale and your body turns grey maybe not physically but something dies inside of you when you don’t lay aside every weight. I watched a video online and I heard a woman rant about how she had been duped by her husband and how she suffered for years due to the loss, what struck me was her response when she was asked If she had forgiven him, she looked the camera in the eye and she said ‘’I will never forgive him till I die."
I get that it is hard but we have so much normalised resentment to the point that we feel it comes from a place of power but the truth is forgiveness is really an attribute of the strong and there is nothing powerful about holding pain captive. Funny thing is you are the one carrying the burden, for all you know the offender has moved on and you are still here sulking.

To heal means to become sound and healthy again and it is not even an easy task, everybody has something they need to heal from and sadly it may be little things, your friend spoke to you rudely and forgot to apologise, you feel your parents are not treating you right, you just got out of a bad  relationship etc, truth is some of us are out here yelling I am over it! It’s not that deep! I have moved on! but we both know that’s a lie that studied abroad.

Sometimes we claim to have forgiven yet we secretly nurse the idea for an opportunity to show ourselves. If given a chance we would retaliate as per let me give them a taste of their own medicine. On a lighter note I remember fondly a time when my friend finished a drink we were to meant to share (Capri Sonne(strawberry flavour) to be precise. I was looking forward to drinking this chilled yumminess because who doesn't like Capri Sonne. She was sipping this thing with so much energy and I just thought no she can't possibly finish it , she might just be ravenously drinking her share but behold and lo I heard the "krr krr" sound as she squeezed the hell out of this juice. I was really thirsty  I remember just feeling ah! my friend, I love you but I must do my own. That  scenario may just sound fleeting or trivial and Indeed it was ,we genuinely laughed about it but this is how we often react to bigger situations, we say I forgive you but I pray I get the chance to retaliate so that we can be even but if you get even with everybody you can't beat the odds. It is just vain and self deceitful to hold back while claiming to have let go. People will intentionally hurt you and you must let go because hurt people hurt other people and it raises a generation of broken people.

 So dear Capri Sonne snatching friend if I ever finish a drink meant for both of us do know that it will not be intentional and l am not retaliating or hurting, it will truly be a friendly gesture with a sprinkle of tough love Haq Haq Haq.

Healing does not mean a return to the original state, it is simply accepting to move on despite the limitation. There are physically challenged people who have become great today but they are still physically challenged then there are physically challenged people who continue complaining and falling in and out of depression like it is some treasure hunt, yes people are different but sometimes it is the choice that makes the difference.


 Healing starts from the mind and if you can’t close that portal of anger or revenge in your mind there will be no open doors for you in reality. Healing is different from curing, you can cure without healing but you cannot heal without curing. Curing is removing an evidence of the disease, the hurt, pain etc but healing is to be made whole. Biblical example; when Jesus took leprosy from the 10 lepers, they left and only one came back to give thanks and Jesus said ‘’ Rise and go thy faith has made thee whole” why did he say that if healing and curing were the same things? Basically, 9 were cured and only one was healed. When you are healed everything about you is intact, preserved and prosperous. This is not a sermon so  go read Luke chapter 17:11-19

Jesus asked, “Weren’t all ten healed? Where are the other nine? Didn’t anyone else return and give praise to God except this outsider?”
Then Jesus said to him, “Get up and go. Your faith has healed you.”
 Healing is deeper and must always come from within.So forgive yourself, heal! yes you are getting old and you want to be young and getting it, yes you may not be doing well in school, yes you don’t have money, life will always happen but heal so that you can move on. What we do most times is temporary we just cure the situation and it only lasts a while that’s why people keep getting sad and depressed over one particular issue.

Happy


I don’t know if I was coherent enough but learn now that nobody owns your happiness, learn to be thankful and forgive and forget, yes you can forget! Forgetting doesn’t mean your brain will go blank it just means you are mature enough to open up a new chapter without flipping through the previous one. Give that person another chance in your heart. Give yourself another chance and if you fail today, heal and start again, now take two minutes to think of that friend or family member or anybody you vowed not to forgive or you partly forgave, you may not call them or anything just take a deep breath and say ‘’I let go’’ free them and free yourself! Take back your peace of mind.

Read Titilope Sonuga's How to heal a wound I think it's amazing 

Saturday, 31 August 2019

IS IT A VALID REASON OR ANOTHER EXCUSE!

August 31, 2019 22 Comments
Excuses
📷@oliviaeze03

When I decided to type this post  I  had a long list of reasons to give for not putting up a blog post for three months. I have felt a piercing type of guilt each time my divine friends ask me "Hey Rose you have not posted in  a while." and I say one of these reasons that I consider very valid. 
I have thought this through and in all honesty these valid reasons  I have are mere excuses and once again I am sorry for that.
I thought long and hard on what to post because quite frankly my brain has been racing through hurdles ,then I decided to just give it to you the way it is in my head, so here goes...

God
Photo credit:@oliviaeze03

I have come to discover that humans beings are blessed with the gift of evolving , growing, forming and taking shape,  what I mean is if we are truly dust and God moulded us just like clay in a potters hands then this can only mean that we have the ability to break, crack and be remoulded , we also have the ability to take whatever shape we want to take after we have been broken. Add that to the fact that God breathed his life into us, He gave us a part of himself. So there is divinity in the air that dances through our nostrils.


My point is you cannot carry the breathe of an all knowing God and not know anything. You cannot have the spirit inside of you and not be productive. The bible says in

Psalm 150:6 "let everything that has breathe praise the lord" 

 This means that whatever you do with this life you have in you must praise God.
You may wonder where I am going with this but 
All I am saying is if you know the calibre, specie and magnitude of who you are created to be , you would step out of your comfort zone and make a difference.

 I am writing down my advice to myself because I need these words as much as you do.
I have big dreams and I know you do too but our present lifestyle can be detrimental to the actualization of this dream! 
What effort have you put in to fuel your Ambition,  purpose etc.

We all want to be great, but we have to realise that greatness comes  with expensive rates. You cannot be in your comfort zone and expect to be successful and explore other time zones.
See eh excuses are indeed the killers of destiny. You know why excuses are destructive, it's because it's a layered form of  procrastination. 
At least when you procrastinate you know that ah! I might just be lazy, you are simply marinating your ability till the point that it becomes stale and soggy. But excuses can be  very tricky , it's like saying I won't write because I have school work to do, it's I can't go to church because it's raining,  it's the it dosent matter if I finish the whole pot of spaghetti I deserve it after this level of stress , it is the let me spend this money after all I have been broke before and I did not die. 
Just stop it! excuses come fancy and cheap but they will cost you longterm.

God


Lastly,  learn to value,serve and appreciate the community you have. If you have a buisness idea , if you are a creative, content creator or anything just make do with what you have. Don't wait to have 50,000 followers or subscribers or buyers before you start. Value the audience you have now....the bible says he that is faithful in little.... 


Luke 16:10
"He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much. 

Luke 16:10 New International Version (NIV)

10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. 

"His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful slave. You were faithful with a few things, I will put you in charge of many things; enter into the joy of your master.'

I had that problem. I have an average  of 400 views on this blog half of which  I am sure are family and friends,  I remember feeling sad that even inside the 400 not up to 30 are subscribed. I just gave up and that scripture came into my spirit ,so ask yourself am I faithful with the little I have? Because that is the only way God can multiply you, that is the only way to grow. So Today I decide to be faithful to you!

Faithful  God
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And drum roll please Iyanu started a powerful blog that has inspired ,uplifted and entertained me, it literally drew tears from my eyes, pls visit  https://iyanuadebiyi.com/  to begin this Holy walk with her❤


Tuesday, 28 May 2019

WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW!

May 28, 2019 4 Comments

Hey,so I just thought to document this here, It is an old poem I wrote,the inspiration came from basically watching the sterotypes black girls have to go through and how we are constantly seeking validation for our beauty, then I listened to Dylema's poem "what if a black girl knew "....I just thought to remind all black girls that they are just perfect.

Black girl


WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW

 #1

What if a black girl knew 
She could embrace herself 
That she could come to terms with her form
That her body must not conform to the norm
That it is an embodiment of fulfilment in itself 

What if a black girl knew 
That the folds on her belly is not a clarion call
Not a cue to seal up her confidence 
That the rolls of lush flesh on her back is not a reason to relapse 
That her loose skin is not a reason for her to lose herself 
and be uptight 
What if she knew that the blemishes on her face
Is evidence that she is human and not a reason
to forget all her wishes
That the bags beneath her eyes are not empty, that they
Carry clear vision and sight for passion
That her little, hollow or bulgy eyes will lead her to light 

What if she knew 
that the hair sprouting from the pores of her skin is uniqueness that will help her wax strong
That her big lips are succulent
That even her thick thighs can climb the ladder of success 
That her body is magic

What if she knew 
that even without the visibility of her collar bones 
She is still a valid bone structure
That her stance can still make dry bones rise again
What if a black girl knew 
That her beauty does not need validation 
What if she knew that her knuckles can still chop knuckle(lol I ran out of lines here)....

Black girl


#2

*What if a black girl knew
That she is culture
That the flicker in her eyes can ignite a dream
That the wonder lingering in her soul 
can become a wonder
That the pout on her lips can turn to a story 
What if a black girl knew
That her skin is heritage
That it's colour does not need more colour
That it is bright enough
*What If she knew
That she could tie the world beneath her turban
And own it
That her hands are equipped for moulding
Life's and shaping destinies
*What if she knew
That she could dream and wake up to it in reality
That her history is not misery
That her roots should never be uprooted
That though she is in boots, a strapless dress,
Fine silk or ankara
She is a representation of that place
That place were her true soul lives in freedom.


Black girl


#3

What if a black girl knew 
That she is  blessing to the earth
Divine dust breathing life 
With Equipped bodies grounded in
The art of holding life in her belly

What if a black girl knew 
That her skin is the colour of gold dust
Glistening above bones that form 
the frame work of her body 
A body that curves in diverse shapes and sizes
or make a straight line
What if she knew
That this body is actually her own
An ownership she might   
merge into a partnership
 not dominace or choose to keep for herself 
What if she knew
That the flesh that part her lips to showcase her fine teeth
Can close and open at will
That her quick gesture or smile is not consent 
That an invitation to her home is not an invitation to treat her body like a treat
That the pressing of her palm against fingers
Is not a contract to make unsolicited  contact with her body

What if she knew 
That it's okay for her hair to be nappy
That her braids are to adorn her head 
And not a means to drag her by even when she pleads bye
That her make up is good but it is not all she is made off
That deep down she is more than a pretty face

That her silence should have a voice
That her eyes should only water with reasonable reason

What if she knew that stereotypes do not fit her type
That maybe her body is main, it is not a prototype 
That she can give room for growth and newness
What if she knew that it's not her fault.

Word of advice for people aspiring to write,  your first draft is not meant to be perfect when I wrote this poem I thought it was the next best thing after maya angelou's Phenomenal woman but looking at it now I can see the flaws , better ways I should have put tenses etc.,I am working on a poem with this same theme and I am encouraged by my growth. So never discard your first draft use it as a reference point and don't beat yourself up, it does not have to be perfect - Roseline Mgbodichinma 



Check out @Dylema_ page she is amazing!

What if a black girl knew

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Friday, 3 May 2019

POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE + A CHICKEN PARODY

May 03, 2019 18 Comments
Story time : ok so It was my darling's  birthday( the fair one on black ) and I missed it because I travelled , I got back and I thought let's go out and hang yunno let's just chill.

After many hours of indecisiveness we carried ourself to this eatery. Now this was not our first time there o, I have never been impressed by that place but this time it was worse! The customer service was zero.

Poor customer service

Let me gist you
In this eatery there is this chicken package that comes with  two plates of rice, A bucket chicken,  chips or moi moi and  a large bottle of any soft drink. we wanted to get that one o! but I rose up my big hand and said no..let's buy a cheaper package, in this economy you want us to spend 5400 on rice and coke who does that. There was another package that went for 1300, mind you all these things where on display so we could see the food and the prices on them, brethren one dark clueless boy came to attend to us, he told us the 1300 package came with chips, rice and chicken then a drink,  we asked up to four times to be sure because the menu on display was a bit misleading, sharp girls like us ordered 3 plates. So 3900 as opposed to 5400.

Uncle started serving it after like 20 minutes of wasting our time. We were tired of standing at this point,  next thing he removed the chips from the plate and said that the Menu was changed and it was just rice and 4 crumbs of chicken that was 1300, One of the waitresses saw us complaining  so she asked who was serving us and he said me!  me! As per I got this ,serving is my calling, I have masters in food menu cramming and arrangement. 

They left him o, me I said I can't pay for nonsense, like this is not what we wanted , I can't order one thing and you give me another thing and expect me to pay, but as a child of God patience is key and Olivia my level headed friend said we should just manage that shebi it's still rice and chicken, the guy was already sweating because he said they had recorded the order and we had to pay, I asked if we could substitute the rice for 700 Naira Ice cream and 350 Naira meat and he refused that it was against their policy. Customer service in some restaurants are just poor, how will the waiter be confused? So I can't change my order? How is your incapability my concern?

Chicken

We carried this food that can fit into my palms to the chair, we hoped that considering the size of the food , it would at least be delicious  ha! We thought wrong.I wanted to go and leave him there to face the wrath, again my friend said let's manage. We had not  tasted anything yet o , we said oya put the rice , people of God when he put it, I was looking for the dog they were serving because it cannot be me they just gave one spoon of jellof rice for 1300. I was at 100 degrees boiling point but I was calm, time to put chicken , he put 4 pieces of one thing that looked like  dried cashew nuts, at this point you would think we walked out..if I hear!


Let Me explain how it went down
Rice : Almost tasteless but I thought ,hey it's jellof and we can manage and chew chaff aby there is chicken inside.
Chicken: Oh lord!!!!! These people roasted left over chicken and decorated it with salt, no you don't understand, the amount of salt in that thing will peel your tongue, there was no flesh , so basically I paid for bone and salt because I told them I was lacking Iodine and calcium.

          It was the most distasteful food experience of my life ,  Imagine preparing to take your friend out and this happens to you, on someone's birthday bikonu! See lemme just say it Awka is expensive compared to other places I have been to, I expected better value for my money or at least the moneys worth , the only thing that made sense was fanta because they didn't produce it , if not the fanta would have been salty too.
There was no toothpick or floss provided , the tray was broken,the waiter was sweating under the air-conditioner , how irritating!

Friends
L-Eunice M-Olivia R- Me
Someone said I should give them the benefit of doubt that maybe something went wrong on that day ,so I will not call them out. I normally do not buy food outside except you are paying for me, I prefer snacks or bread and the day I decide to try food they gave me bland rice with bone and salt.

Salty chicken

I  wrapped the so called chicken in my bag, I plan to add it to the Egusi soup I want to cook because I can't just leave my money there and of course we would not put salt in the soup because the one they used to cook  the bone they served us will be enough for two soups.
Anyway lesson learnt, I am not doing again.

Nature
@oliviaeze03 shot it!

Here are 10 signs yout are in a bad resturant . Let me quickly add, go with your guts and leave the restaurant when your order goes wrong, don't pity anybody or try to patronise to the point that you poison yourself. Please be guided!

Ehe..drum roll please I have talented friends
Eunice, the birthday girl is an amazing artist her instagram handle is _ukamaka_ go and see the raw expression of talent
Olivia, the one that said I should sit down and chew salt is an amazing photographer that knows too much book, she took most of the pictures her instagram handle is oliviaeze03  go and say hi to them, say you are from the blog And please tell her the awesome photos on her phone is for eyes to see not for the decoration of her gallery!
If you have had any resturant,eatery or poor customer service wahala  (issue) please John want to hear from you in the comments or email me I'd love to engage.bye!
Nature
Ngwa bye!! Ahn..I am shaa a fine girl


Sunday, 31 March 2019

Balancing is different from multitasking + why do you want to hurry up and matter ?

March 31, 2019 23 Comments



 
Balancing

Lord Jesus it is the end of march already somebody tell 2019 to slow down nobody is chasing it, or is it just me? Do you ever feel like Time is running out , like there are things you need to achieve at a certain , age, time or period?

 Is  balancing hard for you?

It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes! Everybody wants to blow awon big boys and big gehs, trust me it is totally fine , but I will ask you in SALEM KINGS voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?. Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again o, see I genuinely like the hustling spirit, me I want all my guys to be ballers. I don't have all the answers But I can tell you  free of charge balancing is key.
It is really early as I type this post , I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.


Balancing

In case I haven’t said it here , I am a law student(give me a chilled glass of anything cold pls) you know I always kinda knew, I was going to do this but nothing prepared me for the stress and brain drain, I thought it was simply an extension of my secondary school government class heck I thought wrong. Balancing it with other areas of life has been really tasking to say the least. 


Live a life that is well balanced; don't do things in excess - Daniel

One day I got back from school and I asked myself what on earth am i here for , Hey God are you sure music is not my calling ( but after I soloed amazing by Nathaniel bassey in secondary school I think not) Is it not acting, shebi I should just go and audition or one good samaritian should just credit my account with millions let me just stop going to school and start balling lol , Now I am not saying music or acting is easy but you know when you are in a stressful situation , It is normal to think the grass is greener on the other side, till you go there and see reality. 


Balancing



Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Joshua Osenga, 12 years a Cubicle Slave 


I am sure you have asked yourself all these questions, but forget o, Law is not beans , let's just keep it moving. I strongly recommend you read purpose driven life by rick warren, it is a blessing I am yet to finish, I would blame it on school but then i'll be lying because I was just taking my time ,I shall tell us this story one day.Here is a link to the audio version of purpose driven life
I don’t know what the primary purpose of this post is, but I know someone needs to hear It, One essential thing I know I lack is Balance, yes I will be truthful, getting everything done at the set time is too good to be true for me. I have this blog that I want to be serious with, I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community, I have school because this degree cannot get itself , I have writing contests to enter, novels to read And most of all I have God , so till today I am still lost on how I am supposed to juxtapose all these things. 


I follow The amazing nigerian actress Jemima Osunde  and I am sincerely wondering how someone can be great and consistent with a successful acting career and still scale through medical school in rainbow colours, It is a wow!


The more often you decline invitations to spend time with friends or family because you are too busy with either work or other activities, the more you should realize that your life is not in balance." Byron Pulsifer, Balanced Life 

I am finding myself and don’t get it twisted o, Balancing is not multitasking, It is  very similar but in some ways different. Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability, It is putting something In a steady position so It does not fall, multitasking is simply doing more than one task at a time, see you can multitask and still have Unbalanced areas of your life, but balance keeps you on track,it keeps you in control,at the hem of affairs and with it comes multitasking. Balancing is a lifestyle a conscious effort that has grown into commitment.
Multitasking can happen anytime you don't really need to be disciplined or anything. E.g when you play away the semester and u have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing ,doing assignmentso etc, in this case did you multitask? Yes, do you live  a balanced life? No!

 Did I just make sense? I don’t know but you get my point innit.


Balancing

Before you have the panic and self doubt attack I had this morning ask yourself this ‘’what is my WHY?’’ why am I here? why am I studying this? why am I eating this? why did I start this? why am I writing this? Why am I still reading this blog post? What the heck is your why, when you know your why it will drive you, Do you know your why  because It will allow you set important priorities. 

I am not going all motivational speakerish on you, I just wish you would genuinely ask yourself these questions, think long and hard it will help your life. Now when I see Ice cream, bread o, Juice , before I eat It , I ask myself why am I eating this , am I hungry, didn’t I just eat , shebi Man does not leave by bread alone. More than half of the time I eat It anyway, but baby steps we are getting there.


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In all aspects of our lives balance is key. Doing one thing too much can cause upset, like the old saying goes, everything in moderation is the secret!" Catherine Pulsifer, 
Just know your ‘’why’’ 
And try to things before it is due ,sometimes this as and when due can get you choked up on stuff.

All the fine pictures you see Pamela took them for me with Sonia’s Iphone 6s, that's what I call team work and support  or is it just love.


Sonia on the left , Pamela on the right.

Pamela is a sweet girl and she has passion for photography, I love how she researches and Is willingly to learn new things plus she is tongue lashing and holyghost filled. It is not because she is my friend I am just naturally attracted to women with vision, I didn’t allow her edit the pictures, I wanted it as it was taken, but if she did it would have been top notch Pah_mcy is her instagram handle. Say hi tell her you are from the blog.




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Take some time to learn which opinions you need to value and which ones you simply need to stop listening to. Once you find the balance, you are one step closer to finding that confidence that you long for." Frankie Robinson, Confidence 
And this is Sonia , my baby Sonia wanted to be an astronaut, then a doctor because she is good with blood, then a musician, then international relations and diplomacy because you know this country is beginning to piss everybody off, then maybe Cinderella in her head but you know the lord jejely took her to the law department because his ways are not our ways. Sonia is a writer , a sweet girl, a sensible slay queen and a child of God with the kind of smile I am in love with, she is the owner of the phone , she just had to leave the android department.  Itsoni_ee is her instagram handle, go and say hi , tell her you are from the blog.


I think her smile is contagious do you?

In other news Somebody gift me a Samsung S10 plus or a camera is that too much to ask?.
I hope you learn at least one thing from this post and It gets you thinking,  ehennn! let me celebrate, a round of applause, I just hit three hundred views on one of my blog posts. It is a huge deal for me. Thank you to everyone who shared, subscribed, liked, commented, I appreciate you  and we would soon hit a million views Amen, you all are family.


Honestly,thank you!

I am also grateful that I  write and I am blessed God pointed me to that direction, humbled to have made a little above hundred thousand naira (100,000) from writing, It has been grace.
I am still entering a lot of Contests and If you want me to do a blog post on all the contests that are ongoing, that you can enter and win, Just leave a comment and call your friends and family, I will do a detailed blog post, who knows your write up might just be the next big thing. If I get like fifty (50) comments I will know we really want this post and I will teach you how to hunt for writing opportunities on Instagram and how Google is your best tool. The writing community is rising o, you should be a part of it.


Far from giving up on balance, (Kate) James recommends achieving it by prioritising and spreading out your wish list. 'You have to think which are your priorities right now, and accept what you can and can't do. We have this idea of ‘I want it all now’ but it takes the pressure off a little to set realistic timeframes for your objectives,' she says. Sue White, 7 STEPS TO: Balancing work and play 

And I want to be consistent here, should I  post once a month, twice a month? We have to do this balancing thing and it comes with consistency so... Just let me know what you like.  I read and reply Emails you can send me anything. questions, I will respond almost immediately.
Did I make lots of helpful sense? Just know I love and appreciate you, yes you reading now and I do hope you subscribe like, comment and share, thank you, ngwa bye!


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