Saturday, 31 August 2019
STOP MAKING EXCUSES
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When I decided to type this post I had a long list of reasons to give for not putting up a blog post for three months. I have felt a piercing type of guilt each time my divine friends ask me "Hey Rose you have not posted in a while." and I say one of these reasons that I consider very valid.
I have thought this through and in all honesty these valid reasons I have are mere excuses and once again I am sorry for that.
I thought long and hard on what to post because quite frankly my brain has been racing through hurdles ,then I decided to just give it to you the way it is in my head, so here goes...
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I have come to discover that humans beings are blessed with the gift of evolving , growing, forming and taking shape, what I mean is if we are truly dust and God moulded us just like clay in a potters hands then this can only mean that we have the ability to break, crack and be remoulded , we also have the ability to take whatever shape we want to take after we have been broken. Add that to the fact that God breathed his life into us, He gave us a part of himself. So there is divinity in the air that dances through our nostrils.
My point is you cannot carry the breathe of an all knowing God and not know anything. You cannot have the spirit inside of you and not be productive. The bible says in
Psalm 150:6 "let everything that has breathe praise the lord"
This means that whatever you do with this life you have in you must praise God.
You may wonder where I am going with this but
All I am saying is if you know the calibre, specie and magnitude of who you are created to be , you would step out of your comfort zone and make a difference.
I am writing down my advice to myself because I need these words as much as you do.
I have big dreams and I know you do too but our present lifestyle can be detrimental to the actualization of this dream!
What effort have you put in to fuel your Ambition, purpose etc.
We all want to be great, but we have to realise that greatness comes with expensive rates. You cannot be in your comfort zone and expect to be successful and explore other time zones.
See eh excuses are indeed the killers of destiny. You know why excuses are destructive, it's because it's a layered form of procrastination.
At least when you procrastinate you know that ah! I might just be lazy, you are simply marinating your ability till the point that it becomes stale and soggy. But excuses can be very tricky , it's like saying I won't write because I have school work to do, it's I can't go to church because it's raining, it's the it dosent matter if I finish the whole pot of spaghetti I deserve it after this level of stress , it is the let me spend this money after all I have been broke before and I did not die.
Just stop it! excuses come fancy and cheap but they will cost you longterm.
Lastly, learn to value,serve and appreciate the community you have. If you have a buisness idea , if you are a creative, content creator or anything just make do with what you have. Don't wait to have 50,000 followers or subscribers or buyers before you start. Value the audience you have now....the bible says he that is faithful in little....
Luke 16:10
"He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much.Luke 16:10 New International Version (NIV)
10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.
"His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful slave. You were faithful with a few things, I will put you in charge of many things; enter into the joy of your master.'
I had that problem. I have an average of 400 views on this blog half of which I am sure are family and friends, I remember feeling sad that even inside the 400 not up to 30 are subscribed. I just gave up and that scripture came into my spirit ,so ask yourself am I faithful with the little I have? Because that is the only way God can multiply you, that is the only way to grow. So Today I decide to be faithful to you!
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Tuesday, 28 May 2019
WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW!
Hey,so I just thought to document this here, It is an old poem I wrote,the inspiration came from basically watching the sterotypes black girls have to go through and how we are constantly seeking validation for our beauty, then I listened to Dylema's poem "what if a black girl knew "....I just thought to remind all black girls that they are just perfect.
WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW
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Word of advice for people aspiring to write, your first draft is not meant to be perfect when I wrote this poem I thought it was the next best thing after maya angelou's Phenomenal woman but looking at it now I can see the flaws , better ways I should have put tenses etc.,I am working on a poem with this same theme and I am encouraged by my growth. So never discard your first draft use it as a reference point and don't beat yourself up, it does not have to be perfect - Roseline Mgbodichinma
Friday, 3 May 2019
POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE + A CHICKEN PARODY
Storytime
It was my darling's birthday( the fair one on black ) and I missed it because I traveled. I got back and I thought let's go out and hang. let's just chill.
After many hours of indecisiveness, we carried ourselves to this eatery. Now, this was not our first time there. I have never been impressed by that place but this time it was worse! The customer service was zero.
Uncle started serving it after like 20 minutes of wasting our time. We were tired of standing at the counter at this point. We were famished and ready to eat, next thing he removed the chips from the plate and said that the Menu was changed and it was just rice and 4 crumbs of chicken that went for #1300.
One of the waitresses saw us complaining so she asked who was serving us and he said to me! me! As per I got this, serving is my calling, I have masters in food menu cramming and arrangement. He didn't want her interfering. so she left him to it. I insisted I wasn't going to pay for nonsense. I can't order one thing and you give me another thing and expect me to pay, but as a child of God patience is key so I was acting cool about it.
My level headed friend said we should manage the food, after all, it's still rice and chicken, the guy was already sweating because he said they had recorded the order and we had to pay or else he would bear the cost. I asked if we could substitute the rice for 700 Naira Ice cream and 350 Naira meat Pie and he refused, said that it was against their policy.
I was there thinking to myself, so being a confused waiter is part of your policy?
Customer service in some restaurants are just poor, how will the waiter be unfamiliar with the menu? So I can't change my order? How is your incapability my concern?
We hoped that considering the size of the food, it would at least be delicious ha! We thought wrong. I wanted to go and leave him there to face the wrath. But again, my friend said let's manage. We had not tasted anything yet. What's the worst that can happen.
He served us the rice, people of God when he put it. I was looking for the dog they were serving because it cannot be me they just gave one spoon of jollof rice for #1300.
I was at 100 degrees boiling point but I was calm, time to put chicken and he put 4 pieces of one thing that looked like dried cashew nuts, at this point you would think we walked out ...if I hear!
Let me give you a clear picture
Rice: Almost tasteless but I thought, hey it's Jollof and we can manage and chew chaff, there is chicken inside too, so what's the worst that can happen.
Chicken: Oh lord!!!!! These people roasted leftover chicken and decorated it with salt, no you don't understand, the amount of salt in that thing will peel your tongue, there was no flesh. We basically paid for bone and salt. Did I tell them I was lacking Iodine and calcium?
Suffice all to say, It was the most distasteful eatery experience of my life.
Imagine preparing to take your friend out and this happens to you, on someone's birthday bikonu! I expected better value for my money, the only thing that made sense was Fanta because they didn't produce it. If not, I am pretty sure the Fanta would have been salty too.
There was no toothpick or floss provided, the tray was broken, the waiter was sweating under the air-conditioner, how irritating!
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Someone said I should give them the benefit of doubt, that maybe something went wrong on that day. so I will not call them out. And I still go there occasionally to get other things e.g bread. I won't be risking any other thing, till I am convinced there is a change.
I wrapped the so-called chicken in my bag, I plan to add it to the Egusi soup I am cooking because I can't just leave my money there and of course we would not put salt in the soup because the one they used in frying or baking the bone they served us will be enough for two soups.
Anyway, lesson learned.
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Here are 10 signs you are in a bad restaurant. Let me quickly add, go with your guts and leave the restaurant when your order goes wrong, don't pity anybody or try to patronize to the point that you poison yourself. Please be guided!
Sunday, 31 March 2019
Balancing is different from multitasking + why do you want to hurry up and matter ?
It is the end of march already somebody tell 2019 to slow down nobody is chasing it, or is it just me? Do you ever feel like Time is running out like there are things you need to achieve at a certain, age, time or period? Is balancing hard for you?
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?
Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.
I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.
Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense?
Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right.
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?
Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.
I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.
Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense?
Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right. |
Live a life that is well balanced; don't do things in excess - Daniel
Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Joshua Osenga, 12 years a Cubicle Slave
The more often you decline invitations to spend time with friends or family because you are too busy with either work or other activities, the more you should realize that your life is not in balance." Byron Pulsifer, Balanced Life
- why am I here?
- why am I studying this?
- why am I eating this?
- why did I start this?
- why am I writing this?
- Why am I still reading this blog post?
Friday, 1 March 2019
WHY YOU SHOULD NOT READ +READING HABITS AND MEDIUMS
Hey there my love, I am here to tell you why you should not be reading and also help you improve your reading habits so you can find your reading forte.
I mean it is a good thing because it expands your horizon. It equips you with knowledge and all of that good stuff but It can be toxic If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons , you’re probably waiting for me to hit the hammer on the nail , I will hit It, just keep reading.
I have passion for teaching KIds to become readers, to become comfortable with a book, not daunted. Books shouldn't be daunting, they should be funny, exciting and wonderful;and learning to be a reader gives a terrific advantage- Roald Dahl
This time, It is not about Academics or school work because to be honest sometimes most Nigerian students including me only read to pass exams maybe because the educational system and process is boring and stressful. If you are in the abroad is it better there? Tell me, that is an issue for another day.
Reading is the discount ticket to everywhere - Mary schmich
I just find myself wishing I could read more. You probably have that one friend that reads a lot and you wonder how he/ she does it? Like how and why does he/she enjoy reading?
I don’t have all the answers but I know people read for different reasons. I also know everybody can read books, anybody can become a bookworm, you just need to find the right book and the right medium to read the book.
HERE ARE REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT BE READING
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I can't imagine a man really enjoying a book and reading it only once- C.s Lewis
Remember the review of a book is very subjective to the reader whether good or bad. It is what the reader thinks and interprets from the book, there are diverse perspectives and personalities in this world o. If I hate a book you might be love struck by it. So read a book because you are Interested in the genre or even because you love the cover lol anything. Just do it for yourself.
I might read it and not like it (doubt that),let's say I do a bad review about it and because of my review you decide not to buy the book again. Does that make sense to you? I hope not.
If you don't like to read, you haven't foud the right book- J.k Rowling
fashion, etc what are you into? sit down and revaluate. what style of writing can you connect with.
let me give you a tip, when you buy a book read the first chapter and/ or the last , then go somewhere in the middle, then admire the cover, breathe.
If you've done all these things and you still don't like the book feel free to drop it, try another one and if you have done all and no book interests you, come and see my therapist or book a book consultation with me oshee did you feel my rhyme scheme . I may or may not be joking.
you know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend-Paul Sweeney
I am not a fan of science fiction and that is Nnedi Okorafor’s specialty.
I liked her as person not as an author till
A friend made me read ‘’Who fears death’’ not done yet but It I like It midway plus I read her short story ‘’The palm wine bandit’’ It is a very liberating piece.
If you don't like someones story, write your own- Chinua Achebe
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