Saturday, 31 August 2019

STOP MAKING EXCUSES

Excuses
 Photo: @oliviaeze03

When I decided to type this post  I  had a long list of reasons to give for not putting up a blog post for three months. I have felt a piercing type of guilt each time my divine friends ask me "Hey Rose you have not posted in  a while." and I say one of these reasons that I consider very valid. 
I have thought this through and in all honesty these valid reasons  I have are mere excuses and once again I am sorry for that.
I thought long and hard on what to post because quite frankly my brain has been racing through hurdles ,then I decided to just give it to you the way it is in my head, so here goes...


God
Photo credit:@oliviaeze03

I have come to discover that humans beings are blessed with the gift of evolving , growing, forming and taking shape,  what I mean is if we are truly dust and God moulded us just like clay in a potters hands then this can only mean that we have the ability to break, crack and be remoulded , we also have the ability to take whatever shape we want to take after we have been broken. Add that to the fact that God breathed his life into us, He gave us a part of himself. So there is divinity in the air that dances through our nostrils.


My point is you cannot carry the breathe of an all knowing God and not know anything. You cannot have the spirit inside of you and not be productive. The bible says in


Psalm 150:6 "let everything that has breathe praise the lord" 

 This means that whatever you do with this life you have in you must praise God.
You may wonder where I am going with this but 
All I am saying is if you know the calibre, specie and magnitude of who you are created to be , you would step out of your comfort zone and make a difference.

 I am writing down my advice to myself because I need these words as much as you do.
I have big dreams and I know you do too but our present lifestyle can be detrimental to the actualization of this dream! 
What effort have you put in to fuel your Ambition,  purpose etc.

We all want to be great, but we have to realise that greatness comes  with expensive rates. You cannot be in your comfort zone and expect to be successful and explore other time zones.
See eh excuses are indeed the killers of destiny. You know why excuses are destructive, it's because it's a layered form of  procrastination. 
At least when you procrastinate you know that ah! I might just be lazy, you are simply marinating your ability till the point that it becomes stale and soggy. But excuses can be  very tricky , it's like saying I won't write because I have school work to do, it's I can't go to church because it's raining,  it's the it dosent matter if I finish the whole pot of spaghetti I deserve it after this level of stress , it is the let me spend this money after all I have been broke before and I did not die. 
Just stop it! excuses come fancy and cheap but they will cost you longterm.


God



Lastly,  learn to value,serve and appreciate the community you have. If you have a buisness idea , if you are a creative, content creator or anything just make do with what you have. Don't wait to have 50,000 followers or subscribers or buyers before you start. Value the audience you have now....the bible says he that is faithful in little.... 



Luke 16:10
"He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much. 

Luke 16:10 New International Version (NIV)

10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. 

"His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful slave. You were faithful with a few things, I will put you in charge of many things; enter into the joy of your master.'

I had that problem. I have an average  of 400 views on this blog half of which  I am sure are family and friends,  I remember feeling sad that even inside the 400 not up to 30 are subscribed. I just gave up and that scripture came into my spirit ,so ask yourself am I faithful with the little I have? Because that is the only way God can multiply you, that is the only way to grow. So Today I decide to be faithful to you!


Faithful  God
Photo credit:@oliviaeze03



And drum roll please Iyanu started a powerful blog that has inspired ,uplifted and entertained me, it literally drew tears from my eyes, pls visit  https://iyanuadebiyi.com/  to begin this Holy walk with her❤


Tuesday, 28 May 2019

WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW!

Hey,so I just thought to document this here, It is an old poem I wrote,the inspiration came from basically watching the sterotypes black girls have to go through and how we are constantly seeking validation for our beauty, then I listened to Dylema's poem "what if a black girl knew "....I just thought to remind all black girls that they are just perfect.

Black girl


WHAT IF A BLACK GIRL KNEW

 #1

What if a black girl knew 
She could embrace herself 
That she could come to terms with her form
That her body must not conform to the norm
That it is an embodiment of fulfilment in itself 

What if a black girl knew 
That the folds on her belly is not a clarion call
Not a cue to seal up her confidence 
That the rolls of lush flesh on her back is not a reason to relapse 
That her loose skin is not a reason for her to lose herself 
and be uptight 
What if she knew that the blemishes on her face
Is evidence that she is human and not a reason
to forget all her wishes
That the bags beneath her eyes are not empty, that they
Carry clear vision and sight for passion
That her little, hollow or bulgy eyes will lead her to light 

What if she knew 
that the hair sprouting from the pores of her skin is uniqueness that will help her wax strong
That her big lips are succulent
That even her thick thighs can climb the ladder of success 
That her body is magic

What if she knew 
that even without the visibility of her collar bones 
She is still a valid bone structure
That her stance can still make dry bones rise again
What if a black girl knew 
That her beauty does not need validation 
What if she knew that her knuckles can still chop knuckle(lol I ran out of lines here)....

Black girl


#2

*What if a black girl knew
That she is culture
That the flicker in her eyes can ignite a dream
That the wonder lingering in her soul 
can become a wonder
That the pout on her lips can turn to a story 
What if a black girl knew
That her skin is heritage
That it's colour does not need more colour
That it is bright enough
*What If she knew
That she could tie the world beneath her turban
And own it
That her hands are equipped for moulding
Life's and shaping destinies
*What if she knew
That she could dream and wake up to it in reality
That her history is not misery
That her roots should never be uprooted
That though she is in boots, a strapless dress,
Fine silk or ankara
She is a representation of that place
That place were her true soul lives in freedom.


Black girl


#3

What if a black girl knew 
That she is  blessing to the earth
Divine dust breathing life 
With Equipped bodies grounded in
The art of holding life in her belly

What if a black girl knew 
That her skin is the colour of gold dust
Glistening above bones that form 
the frame work of her body 
A body that curves in diverse shapes and sizes
or make a straight line
What if she knew
That this body is actually her own
An ownership she might   
merge into a partnership
 not dominace or choose to keep for herself 
What if she knew
That the flesh that part her lips to showcase her fine teeth
Can close and open at will
That her quick gesture or smile is not consent 
That an invitation to her home is not an invitation to treat her body like a treat
That the pressing of her palm against fingers
Is not a contract to make unsolicited  contact with her body

What if she knew 
That it's okay for her hair to be nappy
That her braids are to adorn her head 
And not a means to drag her by even when she pleads bye
That her make up is good but it is not all she is made off
That deep down she is more than a pretty face

That her silence should have a voice
That her eyes should only water with reasonable reason

What if she knew that stereotypes do not fit her type
That maybe her body is main, it is not a prototype 
That she can give room for growth and newness
What if she knew that it's not her fault.

Word of advice for people aspiring to write,  your first draft is not meant to be perfect when I wrote this poem I thought it was the next best thing after maya angelou's Phenomenal woman but looking at it now I can see the flaws , better ways I should have put tenses etc.,I am working on a poem with this same theme and I am encouraged by my growth. So never discard your first draft use it as a reference point and don't beat yourself up, it does not have to be perfect - Roseline Mgbodichinma 



Check out @Dylema_ page she is amazing!

What if a black girl knew

Tell me your honest, sincerest opinion about this piece! Thank you



Friday, 3 May 2019

POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE + A CHICKEN PARODY

Storytime


It was my darling's birthday( the fair one on black ) and I missed it because I traveled.  I got back and I thought let's go out and hang. let's just chill.


After many hours of indecisiveness, we carried ourselves to this eatery. Now, this was not our first time there. I have never been impressed by that place but this time it was worse! The customer service was zero.


Poor customer service


In this eatery, there is this chicken package that comes with two plates of rice, a bucket chicken, chips or Moi Moi then a large bottle of any soft drink. We wanted to order that but I rose my big hand and said no. I want us to get a cheaper package, in this economy you want us to spend #5400 on rice and coke, who does that.

There was another package that went for #1300, mind you all these things were on display so we could see the food and the prices slated on them, brethren one dark clueless boy came to attend to us. He told us the #1300 package came with chips, rice, and chicken, then a drink. We asked up to four times to be sure because the menu on display was a bit misleading. He confirmed and sharp girls like us ordered 3 plates. So #3900 as opposed to #5400.

Uncle started serving it after like 20 minutes of wasting our time. We were tired of standing at the counter at this point. We were famished and ready to eat, next thing he removed the chips from the plate and said that the Menu was changed and it was just rice and 4 crumbs of chicken that went for #1300.

One of the waitresses saw us complaining so she asked who was serving us and he said to me!  me! As per I got this, serving is my calling, I have masters in food menu cramming and arrangement. He didn't want her interfering. so she left him to it. I insisted I wasn't going to pay for nonsense. I can't order one thing and you give me another thing and expect me to pay, but as a child of God patience is key so I was acting cool about it. 

My level headed friend said we should manage the food, after all, it's still rice and chicken, the guy was already sweating because he said they had recorded the order and we had to pay or else he would bear the cost. I asked if we could substitute the rice for 700 Naira Ice cream and 350 Naira meat Pie and he refused, said that it was against their policy.  

I was there thinking to myself, so being a confused waiter is part of your policy? 
Customer service in some restaurants are just poor, how will the waiter be unfamiliar with the menu? So I can't change my order? How is your incapability my concern?


Chicken

We hoped that considering the size of the food, it would at least be delicious ha! We thought wrong. I wanted to go and leave him there to face the wrath. But again, my friend said let's manage. We had not  tasted anything yet. What's the worst that can happen.


He served us the rice, people of God when he put it. I was looking for the dog they were serving because it cannot be me they just gave one spoon of jollof rice for #1300. 


I was at 100 degrees boiling point but I was calm, time to put chicken and he put 4 pieces of one thing that looked like dried cashew nuts, at this point you would think we walked out ...if I hear!


Let me give you a clear picture


Rice: Almost tasteless but I thought, hey it's Jollof and we can manage and chew chaff, there is chicken inside too, so what's the worst that can happen. 


Chicken: Oh lord!!!!! These people roasted leftover chicken and decorated it with salt, no you don't understand, the amount of salt in that thing will peel your tongue, there was no flesh. We basically paid for bone and salt. Did I tell them I was lacking Iodine and calcium? 


Suffice all to say, It was the most distasteful eatery experience of my life.

Imagine preparing to take your friend out and this happens to you, on someone's birthday bikonu! I expected better value for my money, the only thing that made sense was Fanta because they didn't produce it. If not, I am pretty sure the Fanta would have been salty too.

There was no toothpick or floss provided, the tray was broken, the waiter was sweating under the air-conditioner, how irritating!


Friends
L-Eunice M-Olivia R- Me


Someone said I should give them the benefit of doubt, that maybe something went wrong on that day. so I will not call them out. And I still go there occasionally to get other things e.g bread. I won't be risking any other thing, till I am convinced there is a change. 


Salty chicken

I  wrapped the so-called chicken in my bag, I plan to add it to the Egusi soup I am cooking because I can't just leave my money there and of course we would not put salt in the soup because the one they used in frying or baking the bone they served us will be enough for two soups.

Anyway, lesson learned. 


Nature
@oliviaeze03 shot it!

Here are 10 signs you are in a bad restaurant. Let me quickly add, go with your guts and leave the restaurant when your order goes wrong, don't pity anybody or try to patronize to the point that you poison yourself. Please be guided!

Ehe..drum roll please I have talented friends
Eunice, the birthday girl is an amazing artist her Instagram handle is _ukamaka_ go and see the raw expression of talent

Olivia, the one that said I should sit down and chew salt is an amazing photographer that knows too much book, she took most of the pictures her Instagram handle is Veeyaas_lens go and say hi to them, say you are from the blog And please tell her the awesome photos on her phone is for the world to see and not for the decoration of her gallery!

If you have had any restaurant, eatery or
poor customer service wahala  (issue)
I want to hear from you in the comments or email me I'd love to engage. Bye! 

Nature



Sunday, 31 March 2019

Balancing is different from multitasking + why do you want to hurry up and matter ?

Balancing


It is the end of march already somebody tell 2019 to slow down nobody is chasing it, or is it just me? Do you ever feel like Time is running out like there are things you need to achieve at a certain, age, time or period? Is balancing hard for you?
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!  
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?

Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.

I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. 
I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.

Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense? 


Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right.

Balancing

In case I haven’t said it here.
I am a law student(give me a chilled glass of anything cold pls) I always knew I was going to do this but nothing prepared me for the stress and brain drain. I thought it was simply an extension of my secondary school government classes. Oh ! I should have done some other course...lol Now I am not saying other courses are easy but you know when you are in a stressful situation, It is normal to think the grass is greener on the other side, till you go there and see reality. 
I am sure you have asked yourself questions about your current level in life and its okay. For me, I just keep wondering like Law is not beans. I have to go to my classes because this degree will not get itself. I have writing contests to enter, novels to read, And most of all I have God. 

Till today I am still lost on how I am supposed to juxtapose all these things.  I follow The amazing Nigerian actress Jemima Osunde and I am sincerely wondering how someone can be great and consistent with a successful acting career and still scale through medical school in rainbow colours, It is a wow!
Live a life that is well balanced; don't do things in excess - Daniel
One day I got back from school and I asked myself what on earth am/I here for. Like God are you sure music is not my calling (but after I soloed amazing by Nathaniel Bassey in secondary school  I perished that idea) can one good samaritan just credit my account with millions? So I'd just stop going to school and start balling lol.

Balancing is not multitasking, It is very similar but in some ways different. 

Balancing


Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Joshua Osenga, 12 years a Cubicle Slave 

I don’t know what the primary purpose of this post is, but I know someone needs to hear It. One essential thing I know I lack is Balance, yes I will be truthful, getting everything done at the set time is too good to be true for me.

The more often you decline invitations to spend time with friends or family because you are too busy with either work or other activities, the more you should realize that your life is not in balance." Byron Pulsifer, Balanced Life 
It is putting something In a steady position so It does not fall, multitasking is simply doing more than one task at a time, see you can multitask and still have Unbalanced areas of your life, but balance keeps you on track. It keeps you in control and at the helm of affairs, with it comes multitasking. 
Multitasking can happen anytime. you don't really need to be disciplined or anything. 

Balancing

Before you have the panic and self-doubt attack I had this morning ask yourself this 

  • why am I here? 
  • why am I studying this? 
  • why am I eating this? 
  • why did I start this? 
  • why am I writing this? 
  • Why am I still reading this blog post? 

I am not going all motivational speakerish on you. I just wish you would genuinely ask yourself these questions, think long and hard it will help your life. 
For instance, when I see Ice cream, bread or Juice before I eat It, I ask myself why am I eating this, am I hungry? didn’t I just eat? shebi Man does not leave by bread alone. Why? Because I have a weight loss goal. More than half of the time I eat It anyway, but baby steps we are getting there. I want a consistent healthy eating lifestyle, something I can work with, a pattern. That's what balance is all about.

What the heck is your why, when you know your why, it will drive you. Learn to do things before it is due, sometimes this "as and when due" can get you choked up on stuff.


Waist trainers

All the fine pictures you see Pamela took them for me with Sonia’s iPhone 6s, that's what I call teamwork and support or is it just love.

Pamela is a sweet girl and she has a passion for photography, I love how she researches and Is willing to learn new things plus she is tongue lashing and holy ghost filled. It is not because she is my friend I am just naturally attracted to women with vision.
 I didn’t allow her to edit the pictures because I wanted it as it was taken, but if she did it would have been top-notch Pah_mcy is her Instagram handle. Say hi tell her you are from the blog.

Sonia, she wanted to be an astronaut, a doctor( because she is good with blood ) a musician, then study international relations and diplomacy because you know this country is beginning to piss everybody off. 

But you know the lord took her to the law department because his ways are not our ways. 
Sonia is a writer, a sweet girl, a sensible slay queen and a child of God with the kind of smile I am in love with. She is the owner of the iPhone, she just had to leave the android department.  Itsoni_ee is her Instagram handle, go and say hi, tell her you are from the blog. 

Balancing

This post was all over the place but I hope you learn a thing or two? We are all trying to figure things out, share your findings with me.

Friday, 1 March 2019

WHY YOU SHOULD NOT READ +READING HABITS AND MEDIUMS

Reading habits

Hey there my love, I am here to tell you why you should not be reading and also help you improve your reading habits so you can find your reading forte.

Reading habits

   You know reading can be a good thing.
I mean it is a good thing because it expands your horizon. It equips you with knowledge and all of that good stuff but It can be toxic If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons , you’re probably waiting for me to hit the hammer on the nail , I will hit It, just keep reading.

I have passion for teaching KIds to become readers, to become comfortable with a book, not daunted. Books shouldn't be daunting, they should be funny, exciting and wonderful;and learning to be a reader gives a terrific advantage- Roald Dahl

Reading habits

 I get a lot of questions from people about my reading habits aka why I love books and how I read books.

This time, It is not about Academics or school work because to be honest sometimes most Nigerian students including me only read to pass exams maybe because the educational system and process is boring and stressful. If you are in the abroad is it better there? Tell me, that is an issue for another day. 

Reading is the discount ticket to everywhere - Mary schmich

Reading habits

We will be discussing other books, not school books, so don’t run away grab a glass of anything that you can gulp down your throat  without causing trouble for your stomach and let’s engage ok.

DISCLAIMER: I don’t read as much as people think I do, a lot of my people will disagree but it is the plain truth. I just try my best.

Now, I don’t know if it’s just me but I face a lot of pressure when it comes to reading books, like when I look around  and I see people who  can read for Africa.

I just find myself wishing I could read more. You probably have that one friend that reads a lot and you wonder how he/ she does it? Like how and why does he/she enjoy reading? 


Reading habits

I don’t have all the answers but I know people read for different reasons. I also know everybody can read books, anybody can become a bookworm, you just need to find the right book and the right medium to read the book. 

HERE ARE REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT BE READING

1.  JUST BECAUSE OTHERS ARE READING: listen, you can be motivated by the reading ability of others but when you start seeing it as a competition ‘’as per I read pass you’’ It only means you have lost your essence and sense of direction, don’t resent yourself if you’ve done this, it is totally okay just snap out of it, I have been there, I have done that. 

See eh that Ada read 50 books in three weeks is not a reason you should read or buy 100 books to read, you will end up missing all your schedules and appointments and you will not enjoy it.
 I was the chairman on that table till I nearly failed one of my courses trying to finish ‘’THERE WAS A COUNTRY ‘’ by Chinua Achebe simply because someone on Instagram bragged about reading it, I wanted to prove myself, to show them that I can read big books too , I have still not finished it and it is not about to be finished anytime soon.

There was a country
One day I will take a cozy vacation and read this book well until then, borrow pose!

My Point is, everybody has the unique ability to plan and execute differently so don’t go out of your way because someone is going their way. Amen! 

I can't imagine a man really enjoying a book and reading it only once- C.s Lewis

BECAUSE OF THE BOOK REVIEW: 

Remember the review of a book is very subjective to the reader whether good or bad. It is what the reader thinks and interprets from the book, there are diverse perspectives and personalities in this world o. If I hate a book you might be love struck by it. So read a book because you are Interested in the genre or even because you love the cover lol anything. Just do it for yourself. 

Reviews can help you want a book ,for instance I have heard only good things about Trevor Noah’s  ‘’Born a crime’’ and I can’t wait to read it.
I might read it and not like it (doubt that),let's  say I do a bad review about it and because of my review you decide not to  buy the book again. Does that make sense to you? I hope not.

Reading habits

If you don't like to read, you haven't foud the right book- J.k Rowling
It is not that you naturally hate reading books; you just have not found the right book yet. I employ you to understand your interests and go for it. What excites you? Ask yourself is it romance, memoirs,nonfiction,paranormal,
fashion, etc what are you into? sit down and revaluate. what style of writing can you connect with. 

PS: to find out all these things I am telling you you have to read.

let me give you a tip, when you buy a book read the first chapter and/ or the last , then go somewhere in the middle, then admire the cover, breathe.

If you've done all these things and you still don't like the book feel free to drop it, try another one and if you have done all and no book interests you, come and see my therapist or book a book consultation with me  oshee did you feel my rhyme scheme . I may or may not be joking.

you know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend-Paul Sweeney

 Realize that it is not about the author, you can dislike a book from your favourite author and you can totally love a book by your worst author. Am I flowing? 

For the longest time, I was told and I believed Wole Soyinka’s books were incomprehensible, I didn’t bother reading his works till I came across ‘’Telephone conversation’’ and I loved it.

My friend did not like Chinua Achebe’s books so I assumed I won’t like it too, but look at me now, I have read Things fall apart thrice and I will still read It again because it holds so much cultural power.

There was a country

 I am not a fan of science fiction and that is Nnedi Okorafor’s specialty.
 I liked her as person not as an author till
A friend made me read ‘’Who fears death’’ not done yet but It I like It midway plus I read her short story ‘The palm wine bandit’ It is a very liberating piece.

All I am Saying  is find what you love and connect with it , you will be a book beast in no time okay and it doesn’t matter if you are a slow or fast reader, Just read at your pace, even If it takes you two days to read one chapter relax we die here , nobody is chasing you.

If you don't like someones story, write your own- Chinua Achebe

Choose a reading medium or pattern suitable for you
If it’s paper back ngwanu! , If it’s E-book swipe away, if its audio book listen till your ear drums beg for emancipation, don’t go and be deaf o and say I sent you.

Reading habits


Let me suggest various websites and apps that will help you with reading and help you find what you love to read

  Okada Books: This is for my E-book people, you buy all sorts of books here while you have access to a ton of free books too,  you can sign up Here

Any Books: you find amazing E-books there for free, like when I found out I ran there with the speed of light, you can sign up Here

.Scribd: This is perfect for Audio books, like you can legit listen to the books as someone reads them to you, sometimes it is the author that reads the book, now is that cool or what! you read free for 30 days oh bliss, sign up here  

 BambIbooks.io: My E-book lovers on this app for 500 naira per month you can access a wealth of books, is it not a wonderful something? check it out here .

Check out something bookish, Roving heights, bookpeddlerng or any book shop around you for paper backs. There are a dozen other places; these are just a few of them, Google is your friend not police so research, you just might find your treasure.

Reading habits
BTS for this photoshoot, This was my mood all through. Xo xo
There is nothing more luxurious than eating while you read-unless it be reading while you eat - E. Nesbit


 If you read till the end you are awesome and you are such a good reader. Was this helpful? Did I make helpful sense? Did I convince you  to read more? Let’s talk in the comment section, let me here your suggestions/ issues with Reading. I know this post is a little all over the place, I just hope you got the message, Still trying to master this blogging thing lol, I Love you! 







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