Friday 3 May 2019
POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE + A CHICKEN PARODY
Storytime
It was my darling's birthday( the fair one on black ) and I missed it because I traveled. I got back and I thought let's go out and hang. let's just chill.
After many hours of indecisiveness, we carried ourselves to this eatery. Now, this was not our first time there. I have never been impressed by that place but this time it was worse! The customer service was zero.
In this eatery, there is this chicken package that comes with two plates of rice, a bucket chicken, chips or Moi Moi then a large bottle of any soft drink. We wanted to order that but I rose my big hand and said no. I want us to get a cheaper package, in this economy you want us to spend #5400 on rice and coke, who does that.
There was another package that went for #1300, mind you all these things were on display so we could see the food and the prices slated on them, brethren one dark clueless boy came to attend to us. He told us the #1300 package came with chips, rice, and chicken, then a drink. We asked up to four times to be sure because the menu on display was a bit misleading. He confirmed and sharp girls like us ordered 3 plates. So #3900 as opposed to #5400.
Uncle started serving it after like 20 minutes of wasting our time. We were tired of standing at the counter at this point. We were famished and ready to eat, next thing he removed the chips from the plate and said that the Menu was changed and it was just rice and 4 crumbs of chicken that went for #1300.
One of the waitresses saw us complaining so she asked who was serving us and he said to me! me! As per I got this, serving is my calling, I have masters in food menu cramming and arrangement. He didn't want her interfering. so she left him to it. I insisted I wasn't going to pay for nonsense. I can't order one thing and you give me another thing and expect me to pay, but as a child of God patience is key so I was acting cool about it.
My level headed friend said we should manage the food, after all, it's still rice and chicken, the guy was already sweating because he said they had recorded the order and we had to pay or else he would bear the cost. I asked if we could substitute the rice for 700 Naira Ice cream and 350 Naira meat Pie and he refused, said that it was against their policy.
I was there thinking to myself, so being a confused waiter is part of your policy?
Customer service in some restaurants are just poor, how will the waiter be unfamiliar with the menu? So I can't change my order? How is your incapability my concern?
We hoped that considering the size of the food, it would at least be delicious ha! We thought wrong. I wanted to go and leave him there to face the wrath. But again, my friend said let's manage. We had not tasted anything yet. What's the worst that can happen.
He served us the rice, people of God when he put it. I was looking for the dog they were serving because it cannot be me they just gave one spoon of jollof rice for #1300.
I was at 100 degrees boiling point but I was calm, time to put chicken and he put 4 pieces of one thing that looked like dried cashew nuts, at this point you would think we walked out ...if I hear!
Let me give you a clear picture
Rice: Almost tasteless but I thought, hey it's Jollof and we can manage and chew chaff, there is chicken inside too, so what's the worst that can happen.
Chicken: Oh lord!!!!! These people roasted leftover chicken and decorated it with salt, no you don't understand, the amount of salt in that thing will peel your tongue, there was no flesh. We basically paid for bone and salt. Did I tell them I was lacking Iodine and calcium?
Suffice all to say, It was the most distasteful eatery experience of my life.
Imagine preparing to take your friend out and this happens to you, on someone's birthday bikonu! I expected better value for my money, the only thing that made sense was Fanta because they didn't produce it. If not, I am pretty sure the Fanta would have been salty too.
There was no toothpick or floss provided, the tray was broken, the waiter was sweating under the air-conditioner, how irritating!
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| L-Eunice M-Olivia R- Me |
Someone said I should give them the benefit of doubt, that maybe something went wrong on that day. so I will not call them out. And I still go there occasionally to get other things e.g bread. I won't be risking any other thing, till I am convinced there is a change.
I wrapped the so-called chicken in my bag, I plan to add it to the Egusi soup I am cooking because I can't just leave my money there and of course we would not put salt in the soup because the one they used in frying or baking the bone they served us will be enough for two soups.
Anyway, lesson learned.
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| @oliviaeze03 shot it! |
Here are 10 signs you are in a bad restaurant. Let me quickly add, go with your guts and leave the restaurant when your order goes wrong, don't pity anybody or try to patronize to the point that you poison yourself. Please be guided!
Ehe..drum roll please I have talented friends
Eunice, the birthday girl is an amazing artist her Instagram handle is _ukamaka_ go and see the raw expression of talent
Olivia, the one that said I should sit down and chew salt is an amazing photographer that knows too much book, she took most of the pictures her Instagram handle is Veeyaas_lens go and say hi to them, say you are from the blog And please tell her the awesome photos on her phone is for the world to see and not for the decoration of her gallery!
If you have had any restaurant, eatery or
poor customer service wahala (issue)
I want to hear from you in the comments or email me I'd love to engage. Bye!
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Sunday 31 March 2019
Balancing is different from multitasking + why do you want to hurry up and matter ?
It is the end of march already somebody tell 2019 to slow down nobody is chasing it, or is it just me? Do you ever feel like Time is running out like there are things you need to achieve at a certain, age, time or period? Is balancing hard for you?
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?
Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.
I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.
Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense?
Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right.
It is not a rhetorical question don’t worry the answer is yes!
Everybody wants to blow and it is totally fine, but I will ask you in Salem king's voice why do you want to hurry up and matter?
Nobody wants to sit down on the bench again and take the pain of the process. I genuinely like the hustling spirit, I want all my guys to be ballers. But what can we really do to achieve this? I don't have all the answers But I can tell you for free balancing is key. It is really early as I type this post, I just woke up wondering about a lot of things.
I have this blog that I want to be serious about. I have my Instagram Page that I sincerely want to build into a community. I strongly recommend you read purpose-driven life by Rick warren. Here is a link to the audio version of purpose-driven life it will really help to set your mind straight.
Balance is the even distribution of weight, balance is stability. Balancing is a lifestyle, a conscious effort that has grown into commitment. E.g when you play away the semester and you have few days to exams so you read the courses simultaneously while cooking, washing, doing assignments, etc, in this case, did you multitask? Yes, do you live a balanced life? No!
Did I just make sense?
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| Sonia on the left, Pamela on the right. |
In case I haven’t said it here.
I am a law student(give me a chilled glass of anything cold pls) I always knew I was going to do this but nothing prepared me for the stress and brain drain. I thought it was simply an extension of my secondary school government classes. Oh ! I should have done some other course...lol Now I am not saying other courses are easy but you know when you are in a stressful situation, It is normal to think the grass is greener on the other side, till you go there and see reality.
I am sure you have asked yourself questions about your current level in life and its okay. For me, I just keep wondering like Law is not beans. I have to go to my classes because this degree will not get itself. I have writing contests to enter, novels to read, And most of all I have God.
Till today I am still lost on how I am supposed to juxtapose all these things.
I follow The amazing Nigerian actress Jemima Osunde and I am sincerely wondering how someone can be great and consistent with a successful acting career and still scale through medical school in rainbow colours, It is a wow!
Live a life that is well balanced; don't do things in excess - Daniel
One day I got back from school and I asked myself what on earth am/I here for. Like God are you sure music is not my calling (but after I soloed amazing by Nathaniel Bassey in secondary school I perished that idea) can one good samaritan just credit my account with millions? So I'd just stop going to school and start balling lol.
Balancing is not multitasking, It is very similar but in some ways different.
Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Joshua Osenga, 12 years a Cubicle Slave
I don’t know what the primary purpose of this post is, but I know someone needs to hear It. One essential thing I know I lack is Balance, yes I will be truthful, getting everything done at the set time is too good to be true for me.
The more often you decline invitations to spend time with friends or family because you are too busy with either work or other activities, the more you should realize that your life is not in balance." Byron Pulsifer, Balanced Life
It is putting something In a steady position so It does not fall, multitasking is simply doing more than one task at a time, see you can multitask and still have Unbalanced areas of your life, but balance keeps you on track. It keeps you in control and at the helm of affairs, with it comes multitasking.
Multitasking can happen anytime. you don't really need to be disciplined or anything.
Before you have the panic and self-doubt attack I had this morning ask yourself this
- why am I here?
- why am I studying this?
- why am I eating this?
- why did I start this?
- why am I writing this?
- Why am I still reading this blog post?
I am not going all motivational speakerish on you. I just wish you would genuinely ask yourself these questions, think long and hard it will help your life.
For instance, when I see Ice cream, bread or Juice before I eat It, I ask myself why am I eating this, am I hungry? didn’t I just eat? shebi Man does not leave by bread alone. Why? Because I have a weight loss goal. More than half of the time I eat It anyway, but baby steps we are getting there. I want a consistent healthy eating lifestyle, something I can work with, a pattern. That's what balance is all about.
What the heck is your why, when you know your why, it will drive you. Learn to do things before it is due, sometimes this "as and when due" can get you choked up on stuff.
All the fine pictures you see Pamela took them for me with Sonia’s iPhone 6s, that's what I call teamwork and support or is it just love.
Pamela is a sweet girl and she has a passion for photography, I love how she researches and Is willing to learn new things plus she is tongue lashing and holy ghost filled. It is not because she is my friend I am just naturally attracted to women with vision.
I didn’t allow her to edit the pictures because I wanted it as it was taken, but if she did it would have been top-notch Pah_mcy is her Instagram handle. Say hi tell her you are from the blog.
Sonia, she wanted to be an astronaut, a doctor( because she is good with blood ) a musician, then study international relations and diplomacy because you know this country is beginning to piss everybody off.
But you know the lord took her to the law department because his ways are not our ways.
Sonia is a writer, a sweet girl, a sensible slay queen and a child of God with the kind of smile I am in love with. She is the owner of the iPhone, she just had to leave the android department. Itsoni_ee is her Instagram handle, go and say hi, tell her you are from the blog.
This post was all over the place but I hope you learn a thing or two? We are all trying to figure things out, share your findings with me.
Friday 1 March 2019
WHY YOU SHOULD NOT READ +READING HABITS AND MEDIUMS
Hey there my love, I am here to tell you why you should not be reading and also help you improve your reading habits so you can find your reading forte.
You know reading can be a good thing.
I mean it is a good thing because it expands your horizon. It equips you with knowledge and all of that good stuff but It can be toxic If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons , you’re probably waiting for me to hit the hammer on the nail , I will hit It, just keep reading.
I mean it is a good thing because it expands your horizon. It equips you with knowledge and all of that good stuff but It can be toxic If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons , you’re probably waiting for me to hit the hammer on the nail , I will hit It, just keep reading.
I have passion for teaching KIds to become readers, to become comfortable with a book, not daunted. Books shouldn't be daunting, they should be funny, exciting and wonderful;and learning to be a reader gives a terrific advantage- Roald Dahl
This time, It is not about Academics or school work because to be honest sometimes most Nigerian students including me only read to pass exams maybe because the educational system and process is boring and stressful. If you are in the abroad is it better there? Tell me, that is an issue for another day.
Reading is the discount ticket to everywhere - Mary schmich
DISCLAIMER: I don’t read as much as people think I do, a lot
of my people will disagree but it is the plain truth. I just try my best.
Now, I don’t know if it’s just me but I face a lot of
pressure when it comes to reading books, like when I look around and I see people who can read for Africa.
I just find myself wishing I could read more. You probably have that one friend that reads a lot and you wonder how he/ she does it? Like how and why does he/she enjoy reading?
I don’t have all the answers but I know people read for different reasons. I also know everybody can read books, anybody can become a bookworm, you just need to find the right book and the right medium to read the book.
I just find myself wishing I could read more. You probably have that one friend that reads a lot and you wonder how he/ she does it? Like how and why does he/she enjoy reading?
I don’t have all the answers but I know people read for different reasons. I also know everybody can read books, anybody can become a bookworm, you just need to find the right book and the right medium to read the book.
HERE ARE REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT BE READING
1. JUST BECAUSE OTHERS ARE READING: listen, you can be
motivated by the reading ability of others but when you start seeing it as a
competition ‘’as per I read pass you’’ It only means you have lost your essence
and sense of direction, don’t resent yourself if you’ve done this, it is totally okay just snap out of it, I have been there, I have done that.
See eh that Ada read
50 books in three weeks is not a reason you should read or buy 100 books to read,
you will end up missing all your schedules and appointments and you will not
enjoy it.
I was the chairman on
that table till I nearly failed one of my courses trying to finish ‘’THERE WAS
A COUNTRY ‘’ by Chinua Achebe simply because someone on Instagram bragged about reading it, I wanted to prove myself, to show them that I can read big books too , I have still not finished it and it is not about
to be finished anytime soon.
My Point is, everybody has the unique ability to plan
and execute differently so don’t go out of your way because someone is going
their way. Amen!
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| One day I will take a cozy vacation and read this book well until then, borrow pose! |
I can't imagine a man really enjoying a book and reading it only once- C.s Lewis
BECAUSE OF THE BOOK REVIEW:
Remember the review of a book is very subjective to the reader whether good or bad. It is what the reader thinks and interprets from the book, there are diverse perspectives and personalities in this world o. If I hate a book you might be love struck by it. So read a book because you are Interested in the genre or even because you love the cover lol anything. Just do it for yourself.
Remember the review of a book is very subjective to the reader whether good or bad. It is what the reader thinks and interprets from the book, there are diverse perspectives and personalities in this world o. If I hate a book you might be love struck by it. So read a book because you are Interested in the genre or even because you love the cover lol anything. Just do it for yourself.
Reviews can help you want a book ,for instance I have heard
only good things about Trevor Noah’s
‘’Born a crime’’ and I can’t wait to read it.
I might read it and not like it (doubt that),let's say I do a bad review about it and because of my review you decide not to buy the book again. Does that make sense to you? I hope not.
I might read it and not like it (doubt that),let's say I do a bad review about it and because of my review you decide not to buy the book again. Does that make sense to you? I hope not.
If you don't like to read, you haven't foud the right book- J.k Rowling
It
is not that you naturally hate reading books; you just have not found the right
book yet. I employ you to understand your interests and go for it. What excites
you? Ask yourself is it romance, memoirs,nonfiction,paranormal,
fashion, etc what are you into? sit down and revaluate. what style of writing can you connect with.
fashion, etc what are you into? sit down and revaluate. what style of writing can you connect with.
PS: to find out all these things I am telling you you have to read.
let me give you a tip, when you buy a book read the first chapter and/ or the last , then go somewhere in the middle, then admire the cover, breathe.
If you've done all these things and you still don't like the book feel free to drop it, try another one and if you have done all and no book interests you, come and see my therapist or book a book consultation with me oshee did you feel my rhyme scheme . I may or may not be joking.
let me give you a tip, when you buy a book read the first chapter and/ or the last , then go somewhere in the middle, then admire the cover, breathe.
If you've done all these things and you still don't like the book feel free to drop it, try another one and if you have done all and no book interests you, come and see my therapist or book a book consultation with me oshee did you feel my rhyme scheme . I may or may not be joking.
you know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend-Paul Sweeney
Realize that it is
not about the author, you can dislike a book from your favourite author and you
can totally love a book by your worst author.
Am I flowing?
For the longest time, I was told and I believed Wole Soyinka’s
books were incomprehensible, I didn’t bother reading his works till I came
across ‘’Telephone conversation’’ and I loved it.
My friend did not like Chinua Achebe’s books so I assumed I
won’t like it too, but look at me now, I have read Things fall apart thrice and
I will still read It again because it holds so much cultural power.
I am not a fan of science fiction and that is Nnedi Okorafor’s specialty.
I liked her as person not as an author till
A friend made me read ‘’Who fears death’’ not done yet but It I like It midway plus I read her short story ‘’The palm wine bandit’’ It is a very liberating piece.
I am not a fan of science fiction and that is Nnedi Okorafor’s specialty.
I liked her as person not as an author till
A friend made me read ‘’Who fears death’’ not done yet but It I like It midway plus I read her short story ‘’The palm wine bandit’’ It is a very liberating piece.
All I am Saying is find what you love and connect with it , you
will be a book beast in no time okay and it doesn’t matter if you are a slow or fast
reader, Just read at your pace, even If it takes you two days to read one
chapter relax we die here , nobody is chasing you.
If you don't like someones story, write your own- Chinua Achebe
Choose a reading medium or pattern suitable for you
If it’s paper back ngwanu! , If it’s E-book swipe away, if
its audio book listen till your ear drums beg for emancipation, don’t go and be
deaf o and say I sent you.
Let me suggest various websites and apps that will help you
with reading and help you find what you love to read
Okada Books: This is for my E-book people, you buy all sorts of books here while you have access to a ton of free books too, you can sign up Here
Any Books: you find amazing E-books there for free, like when I found out I ran there with the speed of light, you can sign up Here
.Scribd: This is perfect for Audio books, like you can legit listen to the books as someone reads them to you, sometimes it is the author that reads the book, now is that cool or what! you read free for 30 days oh bliss, sign up here
BambIbooks.io: My E-book lovers on this app for 500 naira per month you can access a wealth of books, is it not a wonderful something? check it out here .
Check out something bookish, Roving heights, bookpeddlerng or any book shop around you for paper backs. There are a dozen other places; these are just a few of them, Google is your friend not police so research, you just might find your treasure.
Okada Books: This is for my E-book people, you buy all sorts of books here while you have access to a ton of free books too, you can sign up Here
Any Books: you find amazing E-books there for free, like when I found out I ran there with the speed of light, you can sign up Here
.Scribd: This is perfect for Audio books, like you can legit listen to the books as someone reads them to you, sometimes it is the author that reads the book, now is that cool or what! you read free for 30 days oh bliss, sign up here
BambIbooks.io: My E-book lovers on this app for 500 naira per month you can access a wealth of books, is it not a wonderful something? check it out here .
Check out something bookish, Roving heights, bookpeddlerng or any book shop around you for paper backs. There are a dozen other places; these are just a few of them, Google is your friend not police so research, you just might find your treasure.
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| BTS for this photoshoot, This was my mood all through. Xo xo |
If you read till the end you are awesome and
you are such a good reader. Was this helpful? Did I make helpful sense? Did I convince you to read more? Let’s talk in the comment section,
let me here your suggestions/ issues with Reading. I know this post is a little all over the place, I just hope you got the message, Still trying to master this blogging thing lol, I Love you!
Thursday 14 February 2019
ISSUES WITH BODY IMAGE AND THE MEDIA
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Today I want to talk about body image and why you should be confident and embrace your body.
It’s easier said than
done especially in this insane media world with diverse people who define
beauty by their own standards. It can be very self-conflicting to see people
around you or on the internet with banging bodies that you don't have.
I believe it happens to the best of us and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. However, it
is something that has to be stopped or at least reduced to the barest minimum.
We are all created differently and It’s for good reason, if everybody had a figure
8, the world would be such a boring place trust me. So just understand your body and go
with exactly what works for you. It can be a good thing to dress solely according to
your body shape but it can be limiting as well, I’d say wear what makes you
comfortable las las everybody will be alright.
ISSUES WITH BODY IMAGE AND THE MEDIA
I have heard people say short girls should not wear long or midi skirts, that plus-sized girls should not wear floral, prints or turtle neck. Some say tall girls should not wear heels. Lol, what other silly punch lines have you heard?.
Note that this is not me telling you to look dishevelled or unstylish. This is me saying be free and comfortable, enjoy whatever you like regardless of your body shape. I love Chanel ambrose I have learned a lot about body confidence from her.
Do not let social media intimidate you, heck! most people only put up their best part or the best angle and that's fine. Don't throw a pity party for yourself over someone's portfolio. Don’t dim
yourself over someone else's highlight reel. It’s okay to make an effort to slay. I edit the hell
out of pictures sometimes, so just relax you are fine!
I recently watched a video about young girls talking about body Image Click here to watch, maybe it will encourage you to know that you are not alone and most people especially women go through self-esteem issues at different points in their lives. The struggle is real.
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| See digital tummy tuck, I couldn't breathe lol, I love it too..it's never that deep. |
Also, there are lots of people who want to change certain
things about their bodies and that’s okay. If you can’t come to terms with
the body you have, then try to do something about it. It's up to you. Do not keep looking and hating yourself, hit the gym, go on
a clean diet or invest in your skincare routine, get down to work and rebuild
your body into that awesome masterpiece. If it’s plastic surgery you want
to do, by all means, carry on but please do it
well please I beg you, please.
I once saw a lady with a hexagonal bum, like her
behind, was almost square. People of God save up and do it properly. There is a thin line between increasing the size of your bum and
looking like a kangaroo. Your nose must not be as sharp as a double-edged sword before you have peace, the nose is for breathing and if you can breathe then your nose is perfect.
I have watched some mind-blowing plastic surgery documentaries and videos, Watch It's crazy. Just to add stretch marks are like tiger stripes and I find it beautiful and
honourable. If you have them like me don’t try to cover it or be ashamed. It is totally
normal.
Love yourself because if you don’t, you’d be too miserable and thus not disciplined enough to make the changes you desire. You can read this article it will encourage you to be more confident in thyself.
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| Say nice things to yourself as for I look like a trillion box of vanilla gold..lol |
AFFIRMATIONS
Listen to me!
Your small boobs are
cute, your big boobs are great. Your big belly is fun, your flabby arms will
lead you to good places and hold lovely memories. Those tiny legs are sexy!
Whether
you are big, small, tall, slim, medium or anything just know that you are enough
and at the end of the day it’s not what size you wear but how you wear your size.
Give up on your insecurities and go look long and hard in the mirror until you start to see and feel good about your self or perhaps take a
selfie-and declare to yourself. ‘’I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I am
enough and I matter.’’
I love you and I hope you learned a thing or two or three or more about body confidence, body image, and the media. Till next time I wish you peace, don't forget to stare long and hard in the mirror it's been proven to help you embrace your body.
Monday 28 January 2019
My LIT 18th BIRTHDAY PARTY + THE PANIC OF GROWING OLDER
Finally I am 18! You guys I am so ecstatic, you have no idea
how long I have waited for this age.
I thank God for keeping me. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 but look at me now feeling so old.
A part of me wishes I was turning 16 again and the other part is so pumped that I am 18. I got a lot of messages, calls etc. Like my friends are the sweetest, they were actually counting down to 12am to call me and guess what I only took one call at that time because your girl slept off praying.
I can’t remember what I even prayed for but I know I have been thinking and revaluating, I have asked myself some hard questions like what is my purpose , what defines me , what drives me ,who are my friends , how is my love life.
I am talking about Agape love; my approach and response towards people How do I respond to people? who do people say that I am( see me sounding like Master Jesus).
I thank God for keeping me. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 but look at me now feeling so old.
A part of me wishes I was turning 16 again and the other part is so pumped that I am 18. I got a lot of messages, calls etc. Like my friends are the sweetest, they were actually counting down to 12am to call me and guess what I only took one call at that time because your girl slept off praying.
I can’t remember what I even prayed for but I know I have been thinking and revaluating, I have asked myself some hard questions like what is my purpose , what defines me , what drives me ,who are my friends , how is my love life.
I am talking about Agape love; my approach and response towards people How do I respond to people? who do people say that I am( see me sounding like Master Jesus).
The phase of adulthood just began for me and I just realized
that I am getting closer to being responsible for myself. People of God I can
actually go to kirikiri (jail) now so no messing up lol.
My Phone decided to start acting up and I missed a lot of
calls and messages, It pained my entire being eh, I hope everybody understands
while I await my Iphone x yunno!
I recieved gifts,Hugs and lots of kisses
I recieved gifts,Hugs and lots of kisses
I honestly feel some type of way ever since my birthday party on the (25th
January).
I think it is the panic of growing older; I literally got a pen and paper to plan my life. Epic! Am I over thinking things? Tell me how you felt when you turned eighteen or grew older.
I had roughly 200 messages on my birthday and I couldn’t reply everybody guys It’s a lot of work. I was utterly confused so on this note I forgive the love of my life Abimbola Craig for not replying any of my Dm’s. I understand now GOODNESS!!! And I hope you learn too
I think it is the panic of growing older; I literally got a pen and paper to plan my life. Epic! Am I over thinking things? Tell me how you felt when you turned eighteen or grew older.
This panic didn’t start now because my favourite poem in secondary school was ‘’THE PANIC OF GROWING OLDER’’click here to read the poem,It is so beautiful, relatetable and so freaking accurate, it's by Lenrie peters and I memorised it word for word now, It is all up in my feelings. Oh well! My year just started and I am going to utilise it. From today I will be more intentional, consistent and happy A.K.A living my best life.
My Eighteenth birthday was lit by the way, I had people I love come together and we had mad fun. I felt loved like everything was about me. You know I really wish to have a million followers someday with a lot of engagement on my Instagram page and blog but I realized I wasn’t ready at all.I had roughly 200 messages on my birthday and I couldn’t reply everybody guys It’s a lot of work. I was utterly confused so on this note I forgive the love of my life Abimbola Craig for not replying any of my Dm’s. I understand now GOODNESS!!! And I hope you learn too
Anyway, my birthday was basically a hang out situation, we
played, we got to talk about Adulting , sex,rape, dressing etc. and it was on
that day I realised I never watched high school musical(don’t ask me what I did
with my childhood) or Game of thrones (don’t bite me I will watch for watching
sake hopefully sometime this year)
am I the only one who has not watched it? Because everyone seems to think I am an alien for not watching it, Safe to say my birthday was both educating and entertaining.
I will be sharing all we talked about in subsequent posts guys I learnt a lot from different perspectives. Ok this is long enough let me show you the visuals
am I the only one who has not watched it? Because everyone seems to think I am an alien for not watching it, Safe to say my birthday was both educating and entertaining.
I will be sharing all we talked about in subsequent posts guys I learnt a lot from different perspectives. Ok this is long enough let me show you the visuals
we went to the Amusement park
we had the funest slide ever
we ate and drank to stupor
my friends are the goofiest and I love It
Cake eating time
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| yas! am 18..gee dem |
and my mummy came!
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| she is the hot one on brown trousers |
I had a food baby from the party
If you stayed till the end , I love you and please take time to appreciate yourself and be with people who love you, even if it is just a handful of them.
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| gbe body eh! peace out |
Thursday 17 January 2019
WHAT IS THE RIGHT APPROACH TO RAPE?
MY OPINION ON RAPE AND RAPE VICTIMS
I deliberately chose not to do any further research or read any article on rape before putting up this post because I want to speak only my mind.
I have also made it a point of duty to spare you the dictionary meaning of rape, I will give you my own meaning of rape.
I will tell you what I have called it.
'Rape is a wicked/malicious act of stealing integrity, Identity, pride, etc it is the forceful engagement and ownership of a body that is not your's'.OK, I promised myself to make this simple.
Rape is basically having sexual intercourse with someone without full consent yes full consent. I say this because common sense should tell anyone that mixed signals or reluctance is a red flag. If she is saying yes and no at the same time bro zip up and bounce.
I am particularly basing on the female folk because truth be told they are the main victims of this evil called rape. I had a conversation with a friend and he said
'' men are raped too don't make noise as if its only women that suffer it.''
I wanted to be upset because it's annoying how it's only when we talk about rights for women that some men remember they have been mistreated. If it is so rampant then talk about it, don't use it as a defense mechanism or a yardstick to measure hurt when women speak up about their experiences.
I hear that this rape thing can be common among homosexuals you know when the small boy says he is not doing again with the big man forces him. Or even older Aunts forcing young boys to do nasty things. I totally get that but today, I will focus on the narrative on the female folk.
Rape is bad and there is no justification for it. Even if anybody chooses to walk around naked it is not an excuse to be an uncultured swine. I mean! nobody should suffer for anybody's lack of self-control period.
I hear some people give sickening illustrations like if a bank leaves the save open and someone comes to steal their money whose fault is it. Well, let me answer this, first of , the person is a thief ole! and should be punished. c'est fini.
It is not your own in the first place so why take it without permission. Secondly, when are we going to stop comparing women to buildings and inanimate objects for crying out loud the woman/girl is not CBN or Access bank lets have sense please, and before you give the example of 'Rape is already a problem why put more fire to it by dressing indecently or going to odd places' excuse you!
we are meant to be concerned about how to stop the Rape and rapists not how to stop ourselves from getting raped by the rapists stay woke! I abhor indecent dressing but common, we are too intelligent to justify rape by that now, far be it from me and you.
Never Blame Rape victims
1. Never blame a rape victim no matter the circumstance surrounding the rape.
you have no idea the psychological trauma, sexual assault brings.
2. Don't ask where she was or try to justify the rape done. Show care and empathy.
THERE ARE MARRIED RAPE VICTIMS TOO
Even If you are married, dating or having sexual intercourse with a person for many years and you have sex against your will It is Rape. The day you say I don't want and your partner forces you, listen to me you have just been raped period. Seek help.The amount of time you've had sex before is immaterial, don't let anybody convince you otherwise.
A WOMANS OUTFIT IS NOT A CALL FOR
The cause of rape is not darkness or alcohol or indecent dressing or whatever. The sole and only cause of rape is the RAPISTS. It is what it is and please stop saying what if she was your sister or daughter or mother. It makes it look like the victim must be related to you in order not to be raped or given Justice, she doesn't need to be your sister all she needs to be is a human being.
please leave me a comment I'll love to read. Cheers!
Wednesday 9 January 2019
STORYTIME: MY FUTURE HUSBAND IS OVER THE COUNTER
STORYTIME
HOW I MET MY WOULD HAVE BEEN FUTURE HUSBAND
Good evening or morning or anytime you get to read this. I just said let me gist you.
I need to know if this is a sign or if it's just something we experience all the time. So have you noticed how fresh over-the-counter guys are? Please tell me you have o, It is legit like they handpick the finest people to be receptionists or sales representatives, you would sternly disagree with me If you only buy from Abacha or Ekeawka, as for me I have never been to those places, but I hear it's a commercial market with lots of people haggling you know buying and selling stuff (some people will still say they saw me there yesterday). It's well o the truth will prevail one day. For us that shop in supermarts and grocery stores maybe you can relate,
I have graciously come to the conclusion that handsome men are designed for the counter(don't bite me) because I am a regular customer at the bank I go there to deposit or withdraw money that doesn't belong to me and every time I go there something sweet must happen and am thinking it's no longer a coincidence maybe the universe is trying to communicate something to me. AMEN! lemme gist you.
On a very hot Friday afternoon I went to the bank with my mum she had stuffs to do, I was literally just her handbag following her from pillar to post then I noticed one chocolate flavoured looking guy staring dreamily at me needless to say I wasn't in my pepper them gang attire, I basically wore a washed-out purple off-shoulder blouse and a Jean trouser that was begging for redemption, see eh that day I couldn't have been bothered abeg.
I know you're waiting for me to land relax! grab a glass Its getting juicy. This guy kept on looking at me and quite frankly, I was enjoying the attention so I starred back occasionally I mean! It is not every day you see a cute beard gang that doesn't look like a goat. Before I knew what was happening we exchanged Numbers, just like that. He didn't call or text for days until I went to the bank again, nobody sent me o but I know I did not go there to look for him. 20 Minutes later am enjoying bank Ac and pressing Phone then this cleaner walks up to me and gives me a note It read ''let's meet outside'' oshee! this one is smart
Your girl stepped outside and this yummy man walked up to her. I was way taller than him to my bewilderment , I didn't mind, do you know what can happen if my genes meet his genes oh my ovaries jumped for joy! that man is fine joor. So just as if he was the confirmation I needed to believe my friend when she said ''fine boys have issues.'' He asked when I will be available to come over to his house. I was taken aback, I was shook! so am like what do you mean and he says '' I am busy inside when are you coming to show me, love.''
In that moment I swear his fine face disappeared from my eyes I saw him clearly now and he was so close to the ground. How do you lack sense and height at the same time Mtcheww? I politely walked out on him and later that night he sent me messages of how he loves big girls and dislikes them if they turn out to be 'mummies girls' like me. He said he also has good friends that will spend money on me wow! I have become a universal donor, I didn't reply any of his messages until he said 'give me your account number.' well I replied, I told him to go away, that tufiakwa! lol, I promise I refused to send it or maybe I did my memory fails me at this point lol. He views my WhatsApp story and he has wished me a happy new year but my mother said 'when you see a man like that run till your legs can reach the back of your ears.'
As if that was not enough yesterday I went to a different Bank, Trust me I never wanted to go They are always sending me Haba! It was a long queue and I could tell this guy was looking straight into my eyes. I didn't even smile pim. It got to my turn and he says ''Sweetheart your welcome.'' welcome to where I didn't say nothing. He unwrapped 50k and told me to write my beautiful name and number on the wrap, smooth thang He was communicating with his eyes and he kept batting his eyelid and smiling at me then he said ''I will keep eyeing you till you do the needful.'' He made me laugh so yea I wrote my name and number for him. I was even doing team natural that day o nothing too much, oh ok I put small classic powder and maybe small eyeliner I mean my brows where not even noticeable , even my lips were not too pink so I don't know what is always drawing bank people to me as I do not figure 8 or size 2..He has not called me back and me I think I will spend this my two hundred naira if I don't go back to that bank and deposit it.
What do you think? Because If I stay here my future Husband might become a thing of the past
PS; That picture was my natural look to the bank. I did the make up myself yay
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